And everything else you've pretty much said on this thread with maybe only a couple of little exceptions that have more to do with how you may have phrased something other than your actual point.
I live in the
Deep South. I see both explicit racism and implicit racism every single day against African-American people where I live. I do not pretend to understand the perspective of a POC but I do empathize and try and educate myself as much as I can on my white privilege.
I think it would be my white privilege showing in a completely unacceptable way if I commented on a name like 'Sir'. The only comment that I have on Rumi is that initially I thought it was some cultural appropriation of their own, using the name of a famous male Islamic poet as their daughter's name. I've since found out that it is a female Japanese name so it doesn't bother me so much. It bothered me a little to begin with as I do not think Islamic scholarship is given enough respect as it is therefore is apt to being appropriated by someone famous but I stand corrected.