[Opinions] Re: Love on a boy (m)
This isn't a response to what you said here. I just want to further expound on what I said. I would also want my daughter to be gentle and sweet, but also strong-willed, proud, and self-assertive when the occasion calls for it. And in fact, I don't think that the name I did choose for my daughter, Victoria, is gentle and sweet at all. It seems that when people dislike it, they do so because it's the opposite of gentle and sweet---"icy" and "prickly" is what I hear most.But even if one does choose a softer and frillier name for a girl, I don't think it's as much of an encumbrance to the woman the girl will grow into being taking seriously than a traditionally feminine name is for the man the boy will grow into. People expect some women to have soft, gentle, and sweet names. They're going to start from the same point whether the name is something very basic and not soft like Joan, or traditionally masculine such as, I don't know, Jason, as they are if the name is Arabella. But since men are expected to have masculine names, I think a traditionally feminine name is going to result in a lot of probably subconscious, and thus more insidious, initial prejudices.Anyway, there is and always has been a huge disconnect between this board and the real world about giving boys traditionally feminine names. It's fine and dandy to most people here, it seems. That's not the real world. Boys do not want girls' names. It's a burden and a disadvantage. And no, it's not the same burden and disadvantage for a girl to bear a traditionally masculine name, and no, that's not fair, but it's the way it is.

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Hazel on a Boy  ·  Zina  ·  8/2/2020, 11:10 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Justina  ·  8/3/2020, 7:57 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Angrboða  ·  8/3/2020, 6:54 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  number1212  ·  8/3/2020, 4:35 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Pink Princess  ·  8/3/2020, 4:12 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Jasmine  ·  8/3/2020, 3:52 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Justina  ·  8/3/2020, 8:02 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 2:06 PM
Laurel etc.  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 4:40 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  noisynora  ·  8/3/2020, 1:59 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Princess_Shireen  ·  8/3/2020, 10:50 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Raven Briar  ·  8/3/2020, 10:16 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Katrine  ·  8/3/2020, 7:50 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 7:51 AM
I'd love to be called Hazel :)  ·  Wordsmith  ·  8/3/2020, 7:17 PM
Re: I'd love to be called Hazel :)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 8:23 PM
I doubt many would like it ...  ·  RoxStar  ·  8/3/2020, 8:05 AM
Love on a boy (m)  ·  Wordsmith  ·  8/3/2020, 7:39 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 7:50 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 3:55 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Raven Briar  ·  8/3/2020, 7:57 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Y  ·  8/3/2020, 8:29 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 8:39 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 3:59 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Y  ·  8/3/2020, 10:07 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 10:31 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  mirfak  ·  8/3/2020, 11:26 AM
Theodore ...  ·  RoxStar  ·  8/3/2020, 5:24 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Y  ·  8/3/2020, 10:40 AM
agree ...  ·  RoxStar  ·  8/3/2020, 9:12 AM
Re: agree ...  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 4:27 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Somebody random  ·  8/3/2020, 9:00 AM
Ditto  ·  Raven Briar  ·  8/3/2020, 10:09 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 9:18 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Angrboða  ·  8/3/2020, 6:51 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Bex  ·  8/3/2020, 9:38 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Raven Briar  ·  8/3/2020, 8:10 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Angrboða  ·  8/3/2020, 9:24 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Theodora'sMommy  ·  8/4/2020, 6:00 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/4/2020, 7:57 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Theodora'sMommy  ·  8/4/2020, 8:10 AM
yes ...  ·  RoxStar  ·  8/4/2020, 8:41 AM
Re: yes ...  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/4/2020, 9:10 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/4/2020, 8:20 AM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 8:23 PM
Re: Love on a boy (m)  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 4:08 PM
LOL ummm (m)  ·  Wordsmith  ·  8/3/2020, 8:54 AM
Re: LOL ummm (m)  ·  a.red.red.rose  ·  8/3/2020, 9:13 AM
Re: LOL ummm (m)  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 4:15 PM
Re: LOL ummm (m)  ·  Raven Briar  ·  8/3/2020, 10:06 AM
Re: LOL ummm (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 9:06 AM
Glad I'm steadfast enough to be predictable! (nt)  ·  Wordsmith  ·  8/3/2020, 9:32 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Somebody random  ·  8/3/2020, 7:38 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Somebody random  ·  8/3/2020, 8:20 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 4:41 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Somebody random  ·  8/3/2020, 5:44 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Katrine  ·  8/4/2020, 2:11 AM
Hazael (m)  ·  Somebody random  ·  8/3/2020, 7:55 AM
Re: Hazael (m)  ·  RoxStar  ·  8/3/2020, 8:06 AM
Re: Hazael (m)  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 8:43 AM
Re: Hazael (m)  ·  Somebody random  ·  8/3/2020, 8:09 AM
Re: Hazael (m)  ·  Dracotorix  ·  8/3/2020, 4:30 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Coffee and Wildflowers  ·  8/3/2020, 7:20 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  littleRainbow  ·  8/3/2020, 7:03 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  ari.  ·  8/3/2020, 6:46 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Daffodil  ·  8/3/2020, 6:38 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  RoxStar  ·  8/3/2020, 5:50 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Cake or Death  ·  8/3/2020, 5:29 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  WinterWonderland  ·  8/3/2020, 5:14 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Myosotis  ·  8/3/2020, 5:13 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Felie  ·  8/3/2020, 4:21 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Theodora'sMommy  ·  8/3/2020, 4:17 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  NobodyOfConsequence  ·  8/3/2020, 1:12 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  NameNinja  ·  8/3/2020, 12:29 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Ora (hufflepuffer)  ·  8/2/2020, 11:50 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Raven Briar  ·  8/3/2020, 10:21 AM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Ora (hufflepuffer)  ·  8/3/2020, 2:33 PM
Re: Hazel on a Boy  ·  Kerilyntaryn21  ·  8/2/2020, 11:17 PM