Message: "Here's an example of why you're being inconsiderate..."

Here's an example of why you're being inconsiderate...

by coldplayer9

5/16/2011, 6:54 PM

If you had a transgender friend who was once Adrian but is now female and wishes to be called Adriana, would you say that extra syllable is arbitrary? No, because being called Adrian is not an accurate reflection of who they are. The same applies for a Madeline who wishes to be called so, and not Maddie.

I understand that it's not your intent to be disrespectful, and that you see nicknames as a sign of closeness, which they are. But if a person deliberately asks not to be called by a nickname, you are intentionally disrespecting them by not obliging.

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Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/14/2011, 11:45 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · stephanie85 · 5/21/2011, 2:46 AM

•I'd put it in the middle · New_Chloe · 5/16/2011, 8:49 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Sekhmet · 5/16/2011, 6:56 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Elena · 5/16/2011, 5:38 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · insane romantic · 5/16/2011, 3:39 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/16/2011, 6:41 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Ismene · 5/16/2011, 1:20 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/16/2011, 6:39 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Alcyone · 5/15/2011, 6:32 PM

•Probably not (m) · Violet · 5/15/2011, 4:09 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Kate · 5/15/2011, 2:10 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:41 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Kate · 5/15/2011, 7:28 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Delphi_Blue · 5/15/2011, 2:01 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:38 PM

•Yep · Delphi_Blue · 5/16/2011, 12:25 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Betsabé · 5/15/2011, 1:48 PM

•I would. I'd just make my own up. · Keira · 5/15/2011, 1:13 PM

•Re: I would. I'd just make my own up. · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:26 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · krisscouture · 5/15/2011, 12:06 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · kelly · 5/15/2011, 12:00 PM

•Probably not (m) · Pie · 5/15/2011, 11:59 AM

•Mhm, if the child liked the nickname, I'd have to relent. (nt) · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:17 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Joy12 · 5/15/2011, 11:58 AM

•I'd use it as a middle name (nt) · elsie · 5/15/2011, 11:48 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Gracie · 5/15/2011, 11:35 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Essy · 5/15/2011, 10:38 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:15 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · hailey-rose · 5/15/2011, 10:27 AM

•I don't think you'll have a problem with that one. (nt) · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:09 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · mirfak · 5/15/2011, 10:18 AM

•Yes. · Orsino · 5/15/2011, 10:05 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · AricaDawn · 5/15/2011, 9:21 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Gigi · 5/15/2011, 9:06 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · kd25 · 5/15/2011, 7:59 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:07 PM

•No. (m) · Alix · 5/15/2011, 7:27 AM

•Re: No. (m) · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:06 PM

•No, not if you HATED the nickname. · Chanel · 5/15/2011, 7:11 AM

•True, that's what I'm worried about. (nt) · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:02 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Ozma · 5/15/2011, 6:26 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Mikah · 5/15/2011, 5:59 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 4:01 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Ranchie · 5/15/2011, 5:57 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 3:57 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · SamJr · 5/15/2011, 4:49 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 3:47 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · beethoven · 5/15/2011, 2:46 AM

•Oh gosh yes. · Sekhmet · 5/16/2011, 6:58 AM

•Re: Oh gosh yes. · beethoven · 5/16/2011, 8:29 AM

•Wow, really? · Ismene · 5/16/2011, 1:38 AM

•Re: Wow, really? · beethoven · 5/16/2011, 8:28 AM

•Here's an example of why you're being inconsiderate... · coldplayer9 · 5/16/2011, 6:54 PM

•Re: Here's an example of why you're being inconsiderate... · beethoven · 5/17/2011, 11:50 AM

•How? · Ismene · 5/16/2011, 6:15 PM

•Agreed. (nt) · coldplayer9 · 5/16/2011, 6:49 PM

•Re: Wow, really? · Ozma · 5/16/2011, 12:08 PM

•Re: Wow, really? · beethoven · 5/17/2011, 11:51 AM

•Re: Wow, really? · Ceridwen · 5/16/2011, 11:19 AM

•Re: Wow, really? · beethoven · 5/17/2011, 11:55 AM

•THANK YOU! · Ismene · 5/16/2011, 6:01 PM

•Re: Wow, really? · Ismene · 5/16/2011, 11:02 AM

•Re: Wow, really? · beethoven · 5/17/2011, 11:51 AM

•Re: Wow, really? · Ozma · 5/16/2011, 4:41 AM

•Re: Wow, really? · Ismene · 5/16/2011, 11:12 AM

•Re: Wow, really? · Llewella · 5/16/2011, 1:35 PM

•Re: Wow, really? · Ismene · 5/16/2011, 5:48 PM

•Re: Wow, really? · Ozma · 5/16/2011, 4:06 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 3:42 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Ozma · 5/15/2011, 6:28 AM

•Agreed. (nt) · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 3:43 PM

•I agree. nt · Kate · 5/15/2011, 1:49 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · CN · 5/15/2011, 3:47 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · beethoven · 5/15/2011, 5:03 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 3:45 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Siân · 5/15/2011, 2:12 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 3:40 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · sambchop · 5/15/2011, 1:00 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Caralena Estelle · 5/15/2011, 12:28 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 3:36 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · BellaMiaSofia · 5/15/2011, 12:03 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · coldplayer9 · 5/15/2011, 3:34 PM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Flare En Kuldes · 5/15/2011, 8:19 AM

•Re: Would you still use a name if you hated all the nicknames? · Sophie · 5/14/2011, 11:50 PM

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