Ever seen Young Frankenstein?
"It's Fron-ken-STEEN, not Frank-en-STINE".
Sorry, but your family doesn't OWN the name. People are going to pronounce it MEE-ra. When I read the title of your thread, I was assuming to read a "which pronunciation do you like better?" type thread.
You can condescend and bitch and tell us that WE'RE wrong all the time, but that doesn't change the fact that most people don't care about your family history, nor do they give a flying f***, frankly, so people are going to pronounce it wrong.
Everyone here is getting sick of your snooty attitude. If you're going to ask for opinions, ACCEPT THEM, and be GRATEFUL when somebody points out that there could be a problem with the name. Don't act all holier-than-thou and/or pretend that we're ignorant or you don't hear us.
And BTW, Elmira is pronounced El-MEER-a. I think you're getting yourself mixed up with Elvira.
Oh, and just my two cents, since you were so kind as to throw yours in after asking for ours:
"My name is MEER-a and I'm classy, spunky and cute."
"My name is MIE-ra and I prefer the term 'dancer' to 'stripper'."