You know, I'm not sure. The OP says this "Don't forget that I'd rather you didn't designate "husband" and "wife" just because it will get confusing later on. When you've decided on some names, maybe thrown around a few combos and you're happy, post a reply in your thread with the title DONE or FINISHED so I know," but it looks like partners are creating spouses.
For our combos, to give us an easy place to begin, it looks like these are the names we both have on our lists in some form. You might want to double check and see if I missed any. FYI: I'm flexible on our spelling differences, and I don't mind Rowan on a boy.
Ada
Calista
Claire/Clare
Eleanor/Elinor
Linnea
Luna
Lydia
Thora
Rowan (b)/Rowan (g)
Alasdair/Alastair
Desmond
Everett
Ezra
Julian
Lachlan
Malachi
Matthias
Silas
We also have a couple near misses, such as where I prefer Emma and you like Emily. I bet we can work with that if we need to.