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HelpRe: from the Web: "Names that scream you are a trashy parent" Do you agree?
in reply to a message by Dianatiger
1. Kinda cringey to obviously name a baby after alcohol, but not 'trashy'. I went to school with a Brandy.
2. Pretty sure they didn't literally mean 'Micycle', they meant reverse-engineering a weird name from a common nickname. Like, idk, Jon for Jonatello or Sam for Samminetta (I'm not doing a good job of coming up with realistic examples, but anyway. I think this is fine as long as the name you come up with sounds good. It doesn't have to be a real name with history behind it, but it at least has to look and sound decent so people think "huh, cool" or "oh, clever" instead of "...what, why?") Samwise and Samwell fit into this category for me; these are mainly associated with book characters but to me they would be 'good' examples of unusual full names for Sam, while Samminetta, Sampton, Samonella, or whatever would be bad examples.
3. I don't know who that is but those sound like celebrity baby names that are more of a stunt and they probably don't go by them. The closest I can think of that I've encountered in real life was when my sister had a classmate called Jazzofmine. Looks ridiculous because it's "jazz of mine' but they pronounced it Jazz-e-mine without the "f" so it sounded more like a name than a sentence.
4. X is fine. Yes, names that normally have an x like Alex and Felix will get more popular when x is trendy, but that doesn't mean they're on the same level as Maxon or Jaxson. And even those names aren't trashy, they're just trendy. They're associated with white middle class mommy-blogger types, which is not a good association but also not what I assume the article means by "trashy". I'd maybe call it "tacky" rather than "trashy"? or just plain old "trendy" which doesn't imply so much judgment.
5. Let's ne real, nobody gives their actual child a certain name just "to seem different". It might look that way to YOU if you don't like the name, but if someone used it, they genuinely liked it. This sounds like when people accuse others of getting tattoos, dying their hair, or dressing alternatively "just to look different", as if they can't fathom someone having different tastes than themselves so they assume those people must have an ulterior motive of 'wanting to look different' rather than just liking things. There are many spellings in this category that I don't like, but some spellings that I do like might fit into this category for other people. You can make the argument that kids deserve names that are easy for others to spell because spelling out "Madaesynn" every time you have to do anything is obviously a pain. But in the end, those parents are picking those spellings because they like the way they look, even if the rest of us think they look ugly. They're not "trying to seem different", you're just projecting that onto them because you don't share their tastes.
6. Nevaeh became a known name so quickly that many people don't view it as contrived anymore. I think the spelling doesn't match the pronunciation and I'd prefer just using Heaven as a name, but whatever. It's not ugly, just a bit cheesy.
7. Pretty sure 'Joaux', like 'Micycle', has never happened but they're trying to talk about 'cool' spellings. Not sure how this is different than #5. Maybe it's the x that makes it "an effort to exude a cool vibe" instead of "trying to be different" lol. Anyway, plenty of normal names look like this (Margaux vs Margot vs Margo-- is the one with an x 'coolest' in English?)
8. These always feel like dog names to me, and very awkward on a human. If they're used on humans at all, they should be nicknames. But again, what makes this "trashy" instead of just garden-variety 'bad'? (And if I was named Princess at 14, I'd probably go by Pri or Essie and never tell anyone what it stands for).
9. Being named AFTER a brand would be terrible, but it's fine to use a name that also happens to be the name of a brand when you chose it for a different reason. Usually learning about a brand will ruin a name for me, but if you liked a name so much that even a brand didn't ruin it for you, go ahead and use it.
10. there is no 10 on this list apparently
11. Starlet is fine, it's like a combo of Scarlet and Star, yeah it's a bit primadonna but at least the sound is namey. It is trashy to yell at your daughter in the grocery store. That's one where I'm 100% willing to call someone "trashy". If you're old enough to have a kid you're old enough to control your own behavior. And your kid is counting on you to shield them from embarrassment. If I was acting wild in a store when I was a kid, my mom would take me outside -- removing me from the stimuli that were making me crazy and protecting me from being embarrassed in a store. If you can't leave, you can at least talk quietly so you don't make a scene.
2. Pretty sure they didn't literally mean 'Micycle', they meant reverse-engineering a weird name from a common nickname. Like, idk, Jon for Jonatello or Sam for Samminetta (I'm not doing a good job of coming up with realistic examples, but anyway. I think this is fine as long as the name you come up with sounds good. It doesn't have to be a real name with history behind it, but it at least has to look and sound decent so people think "huh, cool" or "oh, clever" instead of "...what, why?") Samwise and Samwell fit into this category for me; these are mainly associated with book characters but to me they would be 'good' examples of unusual full names for Sam, while Samminetta, Sampton, Samonella, or whatever would be bad examples.
3. I don't know who that is but those sound like celebrity baby names that are more of a stunt and they probably don't go by them. The closest I can think of that I've encountered in real life was when my sister had a classmate called Jazzofmine. Looks ridiculous because it's "jazz of mine' but they pronounced it Jazz-e-mine without the "f" so it sounded more like a name than a sentence.
4. X is fine. Yes, names that normally have an x like Alex and Felix will get more popular when x is trendy, but that doesn't mean they're on the same level as Maxon or Jaxson. And even those names aren't trashy, they're just trendy. They're associated with white middle class mommy-blogger types, which is not a good association but also not what I assume the article means by "trashy". I'd maybe call it "tacky" rather than "trashy"? or just plain old "trendy" which doesn't imply so much judgment.
5. Let's ne real, nobody gives their actual child a certain name just "to seem different". It might look that way to YOU if you don't like the name, but if someone used it, they genuinely liked it. This sounds like when people accuse others of getting tattoos, dying their hair, or dressing alternatively "just to look different", as if they can't fathom someone having different tastes than themselves so they assume those people must have an ulterior motive of 'wanting to look different' rather than just liking things. There are many spellings in this category that I don't like, but some spellings that I do like might fit into this category for other people. You can make the argument that kids deserve names that are easy for others to spell because spelling out "Madaesynn" every time you have to do anything is obviously a pain. But in the end, those parents are picking those spellings because they like the way they look, even if the rest of us think they look ugly. They're not "trying to seem different", you're just projecting that onto them because you don't share their tastes.
6. Nevaeh became a known name so quickly that many people don't view it as contrived anymore. I think the spelling doesn't match the pronunciation and I'd prefer just using Heaven as a name, but whatever. It's not ugly, just a bit cheesy.
7. Pretty sure 'Joaux', like 'Micycle', has never happened but they're trying to talk about 'cool' spellings. Not sure how this is different than #5. Maybe it's the x that makes it "an effort to exude a cool vibe" instead of "trying to be different" lol. Anyway, plenty of normal names look like this (Margaux vs Margot vs Margo-- is the one with an x 'coolest' in English?)
8. These always feel like dog names to me, and very awkward on a human. If they're used on humans at all, they should be nicknames. But again, what makes this "trashy" instead of just garden-variety 'bad'? (And if I was named Princess at 14, I'd probably go by Pri or Essie and never tell anyone what it stands for).
9. Being named AFTER a brand would be terrible, but it's fine to use a name that also happens to be the name of a brand when you chose it for a different reason. Usually learning about a brand will ruin a name for me, but if you liked a name so much that even a brand didn't ruin it for you, go ahead and use it.
10. there is no 10 on this list apparently
11. Starlet is fine, it's like a combo of Scarlet and Star, yeah it's a bit primadonna but at least the sound is namey. It is trashy to yell at your daughter in the grocery store. That's one where I'm 100% willing to call someone "trashy". If you're old enough to have a kid you're old enough to control your own behavior. And your kid is counting on you to shield them from embarrassment. If I was acting wild in a store when I was a kid, my mom would take me outside -- removing me from the stimuli that were making me crazy and protecting me from being embarrassed in a store. If you can't leave, you can at least talk quietly so you don't make a scene.
This message was edited 6/24/2023, 9:28 PM
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