I am a bit resolute to adherence to the name that the person has provided.
If someone say her name is
Kathy, I will use that form.
If someone (who I believe to be)
Elizabeth introduces herself as
Beth, I will call her
Beth.
If someone who I know uses the form
Ben, but states to me that his name is
Benjamin, I will call him
Benjamin, unless or until he otherwise informs me.
If a teacher, on a first day of school (or something), calls
Elizabeth, who states she likes to be called
Beth, I'll call her
Beth.
The aim is to respect the individual.
In fourth grade, a friend of my mother's, who lived nearby, who had already sometimes served as a babysitter for me, became a first year teacher - and I became enrolled in her class. For one reason or another, I had never addressed her as "Mrs" but used her first name - without any issue. I had to adjust to call her Mrs. ______ … Before this, I also had a cathechism teacher, a lady, who wanted us all (not just me) to call her
Mike.
This message was edited 8/19/2018, 6:33 AM