Re: Love on a boy (m)
in reply to a message by Cake or Death
Well, nobody will ever fix that if they just follow the trends. Girls with boys names used to be "weird", but now it's trendy or normal (at least for some names). That popularity shift never would have happened without the initial trailblazers naming their daughters something nobody had ever seen on a girl before. In terms of advantages, having a boys name on your resume might get you the job, but once they realize you're a girl you'll still have to deal with sexism. A girls name might make it harder to get the job, but once they realize you're a boy you'll be treated however they treat other boys.
As long as you actually like the name and don't get offended if your kid changes their name, there's no harm in naming your baby whatever you want. It's not like names are permanent anyway. If you realize you want a different name when you start going to school, you can change it unofficially in no time at all (when all you have to do is tell people "I go by [name] now"), and then you'll have plenty of time to change it legally before you need to get a drivers license etc. People talk about names as if they're branded onto you, but there's nothing stopping anyone from changing their name (except maybe saving up for the legal fees depending on where you live and what the rules are). The maximum it could cost is around $400. And you'll have several years to come up with the money before your kid is old enough to need legal ID that you'd need extra money to change after the fact.
As long as you actually like the name and don't get offended if your kid changes their name, there's no harm in naming your baby whatever you want. It's not like names are permanent anyway. If you realize you want a different name when you start going to school, you can change it unofficially in no time at all (when all you have to do is tell people "I go by [name] now"), and then you'll have plenty of time to change it legally before you need to get a drivers license etc. People talk about names as if they're branded onto you, but there's nothing stopping anyone from changing their name (except maybe saving up for the legal fees depending on where you live and what the rules are). The maximum it could cost is around $400. And you'll have several years to come up with the money before your kid is old enough to need legal ID that you'd need extra money to change after the fact.
This message was edited 8/3/2020, 4:15 PM