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HelpSad, but try to make lemonade :-)
in reply to a message by lillybud
Very unfortunate that your son's grandparents have nothing to do with him. My husband is estranged from his family of origin, which isolates my children from their grandparents, too -- but then, the grandparents are divorced, because the grandfather was a pedophile, so it's just as well. But the fact that your husband chose your son's name from a happy, grateful part of himself should be the focus, if you can possibly make it so. Your son is named for his father, and to hell with the in-laws, if that's how they want to be. Take joy in your son's life, find peace that he is named for his father, and if all else fails, call him Mike.
Good luck to all of you. :D
Good luck to all of you. :D
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he goes by Bobby. I just hate that he will have to explain the story behind his name to everyone in his life... I hate it even more when he doesn't even know the people involved in the story. I just wish it could be meaningful to him...
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But it CAN be, and WILL be
exactly as meaningful for him as you make it, good OR bad. If he has the clear impression that his name upsets you, he'll ultimately feel bad about himself, even if he himself doesn't necessarily realize it. I would strongly recommend that you lose the bad part of the explanation and focus on his namesake tie to his father. I know a John Johnson and a David McDavid. They act, deliberately, as though their repetitive names are the coolest thing in the world.
Try to think positively about your son rather than negatively about his grandparents, or his name. Again, good luck.
exactly as meaningful for him as you make it, good OR bad. If he has the clear impression that his name upsets you, he'll ultimately feel bad about himself, even if he himself doesn't necessarily realize it. I would strongly recommend that you lose the bad part of the explanation and focus on his namesake tie to his father. I know a John Johnson and a David McDavid. They act, deliberately, as though their repetitive names are the coolest thing in the world.
Try to think positively about your son rather than negatively about his grandparents, or his name. Again, good luck.
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I agree
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