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I live in a pretty small town where everyone has the same old names, which is usually the same name as their father, or grandmother. But about three years ago, a friend of mine was pregnant and the girl name that she picked out was Zaviera, she was going to call her "Za." THANK GOD SHE HAD A BOY!!!
But she ended up naming the boy Andi. I would think that ending it with an i would be more for a girl. Or maybe she could have named him Andrew and called him Andy.
Two years later, she had a girl... and named her Haven. I think this is pretty, but to me just seems like a place, and not a name.
I shouldn't talk... my oldest son's name is horrible, and I can't pick a name for my baby due in May to save me soul.
What do you think of these names?
BTW... today is my Birthday!!!!
But she ended up naming the boy Andi. I would think that ending it with an i would be more for a girl. Or maybe she could have named him Andrew and called him Andy.
Two years later, she had a girl... and named her Haven. I think this is pretty, but to me just seems like a place, and not a name.
I shouldn't talk... my oldest son's name is horrible, and I can't pick a name for my baby due in May to save me soul.
What do you think of these names?
BTW... today is my Birthday!!!!
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I not sure which way your supposed to pronounce Zaviera, but if it's pron. Zah-vee-era I love it. If its pron. Zay-vee-era, well, then I'm not to crazy about it.
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Zaviera is nice. Xaviera is nice too, but a 'Z' seems safer than a 'X', for some reason.
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Zaviera looks weird to me--I'd much prefer Xaviera. But then, I'm a picky person.
I think Haven's quite nice, if quite possibly hard to live with. I don't like Andi at all as a full name, for a girl or a boy. If it was on a girl and short for, say, Andromeda, I'd accept it. :D
What's your first son's name?
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I think Haven's quite nice, if quite possibly hard to live with. I don't like Andi at all as a full name, for a girl or a boy. If it was on a girl and short for, say, Andromeda, I'd accept it. :D
What's your first son's name?
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Let the children lose it
Let the children use it
Let all the children boogie
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My son's name is Robert Michael... beautiful combo I know... but not when you pair it with his last name...
background story... my husband was adopted. His name was Robert Michael Martinez and he was adopted into a Roberts family at the age of 6. His adoptive parents thought it was too late to change his name and so he became Robert Michael Roberts.....
He felt so obliged to them that he thought naming his son the same name would be the ultimate THANK YOU to his parents. Turns out, his parents have nothing to do with their grandchild. The wonderful story behind my son's name became pointless and now he has to live with this horrible name. The only thing good we did do was that we didn't give him the JR. suffix. He is the II.
I still fret about it!!!
background story... my husband was adopted. His name was Robert Michael Martinez and he was adopted into a Roberts family at the age of 6. His adoptive parents thought it was too late to change his name and so he became Robert Michael Roberts.....
He felt so obliged to them that he thought naming his son the same name would be the ultimate THANK YOU to his parents. Turns out, his parents have nothing to do with their grandchild. The wonderful story behind my son's name became pointless and now he has to live with this horrible name. The only thing good we did do was that we didn't give him the JR. suffix. He is the II.
I still fret about it!!!
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Sad, but try to make lemonade :-)
Very unfortunate that your son's grandparents have nothing to do with him. My husband is estranged from his family of origin, which isolates my children from their grandparents, too -- but then, the grandparents are divorced, because the grandfather was a pedophile, so it's just as well. But the fact that your husband chose your son's name from a happy, grateful part of himself should be the focus, if you can possibly make it so. Your son is named for his father, and to hell with the in-laws, if that's how they want to be. Take joy in your son's life, find peace that he is named for his father, and if all else fails, call him Mike.
Good luck to all of you. :D
Very unfortunate that your son's grandparents have nothing to do with him. My husband is estranged from his family of origin, which isolates my children from their grandparents, too -- but then, the grandparents are divorced, because the grandfather was a pedophile, so it's just as well. But the fact that your husband chose your son's name from a happy, grateful part of himself should be the focus, if you can possibly make it so. Your son is named for his father, and to hell with the in-laws, if that's how they want to be. Take joy in your son's life, find peace that he is named for his father, and if all else fails, call him Mike.
Good luck to all of you. :D
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he goes by Bobby. I just hate that he will have to explain the story behind his name to everyone in his life... I hate it even more when he doesn't even know the people involved in the story. I just wish it could be meaningful to him...
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But it CAN be, and WILL be
exactly as meaningful for him as you make it, good OR bad. If he has the clear impression that his name upsets you, he'll ultimately feel bad about himself, even if he himself doesn't necessarily realize it. I would strongly recommend that you lose the bad part of the explanation and focus on his namesake tie to his father. I know a John Johnson and a David McDavid. They act, deliberately, as though their repetitive names are the coolest thing in the world.
Try to think positively about your son rather than negatively about his grandparents, or his name. Again, good luck.
exactly as meaningful for him as you make it, good OR bad. If he has the clear impression that his name upsets you, he'll ultimately feel bad about himself, even if he himself doesn't necessarily realize it. I would strongly recommend that you lose the bad part of the explanation and focus on his namesake tie to his father. I know a John Johnson and a David McDavid. They act, deliberately, as though their repetitive names are the coolest thing in the world.
Try to think positively about your son rather than negatively about his grandparents, or his name. Again, good luck.
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Well, I prefer Zaviera to Haven
At least Zaviera (I prefer Xaviera) looks like a real name to me. But Haven is probably more common and therefore safer.
What is so bad about Zaviera?
I don't get this male/female thing about Andy/Andi, since they both sound the same. But I agree that Andrew, nn Andy, would have been better. Andrew is still all male, I think, so no gender confusion.
Why do you think your own son's name is horrible? Did you not have any say in his naming? Or did you (like your friend) change taste afterwards? I am curious what this "horrible" name is.
Maybe give a daughter the name May or Maya since she will be a May baby! But maybe it is a boy?
Congratulations!
"But it’s all right now.
I learned my lesson well.
You see you can’t please everyone
So you got to please yourself."
Rick Nelson, GardenParty
"It does not become me to make myself smaller than I am." (Edith Södergran 1891-1923)
At least Zaviera (I prefer Xaviera) looks like a real name to me. But Haven is probably more common and therefore safer.
What is so bad about Zaviera?
I don't get this male/female thing about Andy/Andi, since they both sound the same. But I agree that Andrew, nn Andy, would have been better. Andrew is still all male, I think, so no gender confusion.
Why do you think your own son's name is horrible? Did you not have any say in his naming? Or did you (like your friend) change taste afterwards? I am curious what this "horrible" name is.
Maybe give a daughter the name May or Maya since she will be a May baby! But maybe it is a boy?
Congratulations!
"But it’s all right now.
I learned my lesson well.
You see you can’t please everyone
So you got to please yourself."
Rick Nelson, GardenParty
"It does not become me to make myself smaller than I am." (Edith Södergran 1891-1923)
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I like Zaviera
though I tend to pronounce it zay-vee-EHR-ah, and I don't know how your friend planned to pronounce the nn Za (Zah or Zay?). I don't think I like the nn. But I do like Zaviera. This is a safer spelling than Xaviera, btw, imo, because there was (is? don't know if she's still there) a fairly famous, or INfamous Xaviera, Xaviera Hollander, who wrote "The Happy Hooker" and a column for Playboy. I'm guessing y'all are too young to know that, so maybe it wouldn't matter. But it's not the spelling I would choose, for that reason.
I do think Andi w/ an I is more feminine, but worse things have happened. And I quite like Haven, I think it's very unusual and pretty. I like word names.
But you said, "I shouldn't talk...my oldest son's name is horrible." Goodness, what would make you think so? What are your child/ren's names?
And many happy returns of the day, as well! :D
though I tend to pronounce it zay-vee-EHR-ah, and I don't know how your friend planned to pronounce the nn Za (Zah or Zay?). I don't think I like the nn. But I do like Zaviera. This is a safer spelling than Xaviera, btw, imo, because there was (is? don't know if she's still there) a fairly famous, or INfamous Xaviera, Xaviera Hollander, who wrote "The Happy Hooker" and a column for Playboy. I'm guessing y'all are too young to know that, so maybe it wouldn't matter. But it's not the spelling I would choose, for that reason.
I do think Andi w/ an I is more feminine, but worse things have happened. And I quite like Haven, I think it's very unusual and pretty. I like word names.
But you said, "I shouldn't talk...my oldest son's name is horrible." Goodness, what would make you think so? What are your child/ren's names?
And many happy returns of the day, as well! :D
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