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in reply to a message by Siri
I have kept my ln, my daughter has mn ln as a mn and it is no problem at all.
The "whole family having the same ln" is really not such an old custom and it is not done all over the world.
I am still the same individual when I am married, so why should I change my name? To me, this seems like the 50's when it was the ultimate goal for a girl to get married. And then of course being Mrs Smith was so much better than being miss Brown. So Mary Brown became Mrs John Smith, proud to be an anonymous wife.
Nobody can force you to give up your ln, but then you can't expect someone giving up his either. Especially as American (English, Canadian, Australian, NZ?) men seem so unwilling even to let the wife keep her ln.
"But it’s all right now.
I learned my lesson well.
You see you can’t please everyone
So you got to please yourself."
Rick Nelson, GardenParty
"It does not become me to make myself smaller than I am." (Edith Södergran 1891-1923)
The "whole family having the same ln" is really not such an old custom and it is not done all over the world.
I am still the same individual when I am married, so why should I change my name? To me, this seems like the 50's when it was the ultimate goal for a girl to get married. And then of course being Mrs Smith was so much better than being miss Brown. So Mary Brown became Mrs John Smith, proud to be an anonymous wife.
Nobody can force you to give up your ln, but then you can't expect someone giving up his either. Especially as American (English, Canadian, Australian, NZ?) men seem so unwilling even to let the wife keep her ln.
"But it’s all right now.
I learned my lesson well.
You see you can’t please everyone
So you got to please yourself."
Rick Nelson, GardenParty
"It does not become me to make myself smaller than I am." (Edith Södergran 1891-1923)
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I want to keep my family name because I love it. It's unique and beautiful and not to mention - my father had no sons. As the eldest daughter, I'd like to carry the name on.
I suppose I wouldn't mind taking my husband's name so much if he let the kids keep my last name. Though that could add to the confusement - somebody here mentioned uniformity to erase confusion and I agree with that.
Then again, I'm only 20 and am no where close to settling down lol I'll make my final decision when the time actually comes. :)
"Chan eil tuil air nach tig traoghadh"
"Maybe surrounded by
A million people I
Still feel all alone
I just wanna go home
Oh I miss you, you know"
- 'Home', Michael Buble
I suppose I wouldn't mind taking my husband's name so much if he let the kids keep my last name. Though that could add to the confusement - somebody here mentioned uniformity to erase confusion and I agree with that.
Then again, I'm only 20 and am no where close to settling down lol I'll make my final decision when the time actually comes. :)
A million people I
Still feel all alone
I just wanna go home
Oh I miss you, you know"
- 'Home', Michael Buble
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Not all guys are like that, Pierre is actually considering taking my last name, its not overly important to me but it is something to consider.
I know a few men around here that have taken on their wives names or taken both names and hyphenated.
One of my friends is A. Cunningham-Smith-Harris. Becuase her father's name was Smith-Harris and her mothers name was Cunningham so the whole fmaily took all three.
~~~~~~~~~~ Bex ~~~~~~~~~~~
Lover of the book Sirius & Remus
I know a few men around here that have taken on their wives names or taken both names and hyphenated.
One of my friends is A. Cunningham-Smith-Harris. Becuase her father's name was Smith-Harris and her mothers name was Cunningham so the whole fmaily took all three.
~~~~~~~~~~ Bex ~~~~~~~~~~~
Lover of the book Sirius & Remus
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I took my husband's last name for several reasons.
1. I loved him and it seemed the gushy, romantic thing to do. (In no way, shape, or form do either of us believe a woman is less than a man).
2. I liked his name better than mine. It's much easier to pronounce and sounds nicer, imo.
3. I do think it is easier to have the same name as your children and because of #'s 1 and 2, I wanted them to have his last name.
1. I loved him and it seemed the gushy, romantic thing to do. (In no way, shape, or form do either of us believe a woman is less than a man).
2. I liked his name better than mine. It's much easier to pronounce and sounds nicer, imo.
3. I do think it is easier to have the same name as your children and because of #'s 1 and 2, I wanted them to have his last name.
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