New Post
Search
HelpRe: social security 2006 names out
in reply to a message by Suzie Q
Everything is what you make of it, especially messages in text on the net. Nobody is forcing you to feel bullied. Ariel said nothing to you that could be interpreted as abusive.
Nobody expects you to read every post on the board. Most folks like to find out a little bit about a site before they post on it, and it seems obvious (to me at least) that on a website where the complete single topic is only and entirely "names," the SSA list would have been anticipated and posted about already (it came out on the 11th). If you didn't do or know those things, it's fine - nobody assumed you are lazy or ill-intentioned or rude, or suggested that you were... and I am not surprised that folks point out to you that you have these opportunities, that most people would like to take, and do take, to find out more before you post. It's No Big Deal, and there's no need to take it personally and get defensive about people's supposed "tone." The tone of a text message is a matter of interpretation, and my interpretation of Ariel's tone is substantially different from yours.
For what it's worth, even people who post on this board literally every day sometimes repost topics that were up the day or the week before. And they get informed that it's been done, and they say 'ough, sorry' and conversation over. It's no big deal. You got the more formalized 'here's how you find out' just because people don't recognize you and assume you don't know how to find out, not because you're unwelcome to post informative topics.
Nobody expects you to read every post on the board. Most folks like to find out a little bit about a site before they post on it, and it seems obvious (to me at least) that on a website where the complete single topic is only and entirely "names," the SSA list would have been anticipated and posted about already (it came out on the 11th). If you didn't do or know those things, it's fine - nobody assumed you are lazy or ill-intentioned or rude, or suggested that you were... and I am not surprised that folks point out to you that you have these opportunities, that most people would like to take, and do take, to find out more before you post. It's No Big Deal, and there's no need to take it personally and get defensive about people's supposed "tone." The tone of a text message is a matter of interpretation, and my interpretation of Ariel's tone is substantially different from yours.
For what it's worth, even people who post on this board literally every day sometimes repost topics that were up the day or the week before. And they get informed that it's been done, and they say 'ough, sorry' and conversation over. It's no big deal. You got the more formalized 'here's how you find out' just because people don't recognize you and assume you don't know how to find out, not because you're unwelcome to post informative topics.
Archived Thread - replies disabled
1