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My husband and I are adopting our 3 y/o foster son. We have had him since he was 6 weeks old. His bio mother gave birth prematurely (9-10 weeks) and after her discharge she visited him briefly l time afterward and left him. She gave him this odd name and I feel there must be some significance to it. Our child has some older siblings but there is some speculation as to how many siblings there are. At any rate his name has been very hard to pronounce for everyone but the mother gave the attending nurse the correct pronunciation. The adoption counselor has suggested that we simply leave off the E' since we have always called him syious or sy. I hesitate to do this as I am certain that he will feel the need to connect with his bio family when he is older. We are a caucasian couple and our child is black. I would want to assist sy in his search if I can. We are in our 50's and never intended to adopt but we've had him so long and our entire family is so attached to him. The solutions the Dept of family services offered never gave us peace. His bio father wanted us to keep him. Our age however, makes me want to help my little boy have other family connections that could give him comfort when we may not be here. My puerto rican dentist told me the lst name is isiah in spanish. Sy's bio dad is african american and he said as far as he knew there was no spanish bloodline in either his family or the mother's family. What is The E' for? I would love the hear from somebody who may have some answers.