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HelpRe: Why Do You Love/Regret Your Name?
in reply to a message by DarkLily243
I was named after someone, my great-grandmother (my father's grandmother). I never knew her and she had passed away before I was born. So I never felt any pressure to live up to her or to be like her. It was just a nice way to connect me with my family roots in a way. My father's cousins always say make the comment when we see each other at family gatherings, that it's fun to have another ''name'' in the family.
Personally, I see it as a gesture made out of love. My siblings also have the middle names of our maternal grandparents and I know it meant a lot for my Mom, especially giving her dad's name to someone. He passed away when she was 18 and always said he would have been the best grandfather ever. We never knew him, but she has always spoke of him with such love and tenderness. I don't see the arm if it's made out of affection. I agree that overall, you got to like the sound of the name and I would chose a name of someone that was loved or was a good person. But with those criteria, I wouldn't be opposed to give my kids a family name. I would probably not give my own name to my kids, because I agree, it sounds a bit narcissistic. But I wouldn't mind honoring maybe my own grandfather or my partner's.
As for my own relationship with my name, I like it now. But it took me a while. My name is known but a bit rare, so people would often call me a more trendy similar name. It bugged me so much. Not to mention at one point, there was also a popular TV show airing, which was literally my name. Not just the name of the female protagonist, literally the name of the show. Not my parents' fault, the show came on the air when I was 11 or 12 years old, but yes, these were the prime year of teasing. Ughh. I often wished I had a more common name, until I became older. Now I like the uniqueness of my name and I cherish it.
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Personally, I see it as a gesture made out of love. My siblings also have the middle names of our maternal grandparents and I know it meant a lot for my Mom, especially giving her dad's name to someone. He passed away when she was 18 and always said he would have been the best grandfather ever. We never knew him, but she has always spoke of him with such love and tenderness. I don't see the arm if it's made out of affection. I agree that overall, you got to like the sound of the name and I would chose a name of someone that was loved or was a good person. But with those criteria, I wouldn't be opposed to give my kids a family name. I would probably not give my own name to my kids, because I agree, it sounds a bit narcissistic. But I wouldn't mind honoring maybe my own grandfather or my partner's.
As for my own relationship with my name, I like it now. But it took me a while. My name is known but a bit rare, so people would often call me a more trendy similar name. It bugged me so much. Not to mention at one point, there was also a popular TV show airing, which was literally my name. Not just the name of the female protagonist, literally the name of the show. Not my parents' fault, the show came on the air when I was 11 or 12 years old, but yes, these were the prime year of teasing. Ughh. I often wished I had a more common name, until I became older. Now I like the uniqueness of my name and I cherish it.
Don't hesitate to rate my different PNLs: http://www.behindthename.com/pnl/246179
