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I can't imagine having no emotional connection to my name; I feel nothing but gratitude to the person who named me, because from where I am now, I don't like what would have been my other parent's first choice. But, if I had been given that name, it would be the only one I was used to and I'd be fine with it. My perceptions would be different. And, if I had for any reason or none had a bad or cold relationship with either parent or both, I really don't think that would spill over into my opinion of my own name.

I can't imagine not having an emotional connection to myself. It's nonsensical.

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Let's say - if someone I was indifferent to, had my name, and asked me to change it for her, I'd agree to. I don't like the name very much, just generally - even though it doesn't bother me to be named it.

This message was edited 12/29/2022, 9:45 PM

No, I'm used to being identified in this way, and it sounds like it would be a lot of nonsense.

Yes, I see nothing wrong with that. But as others have said I wouldn’t do it just because I had a bad relationship with the person who gave me that name, I would do it because the name was difficult to wear in real life situations, or had a bad meaning or associations or because I didn’t vibe with it.

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People are more than their name, a name is not technically who you are as a person, it’s more of an identifying label anyway.

Sure.

I don't se how anyone could not have any emotional attachment" to their name. I mean, you've been called by that name literally since before you could remember, so how could you not identify as that name? It's quite possible to dislike your name, but people are rarely able to just slip out of or into identities with no adjustment.
So no, I wouldn't change my name for those reasons alone. Maybe if I didn't like my name, but I'd have to really hate it pretty bad to want to go through the hassle of changing it and adjusting to it and getting everyone else to adjust to it. I doubt it would ever be worth it.

I'd just change my name if I felt like it. No relationship with the person who named me could be a factor but at the end of the day if you feel uncomfortable with your name, go ahead and change it. It's not that big of a deal and it's your name, you can do whatever you want with it.*

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*Unless you live in a country where changing your name is illegal, in which case you technically can't.

Sure. But I would do it for myself, not just because I don't like that person. Otherwise I wouldn't want to carry around that reason, you know what I mean? Going through life knowing you changed your name just because you don't like someone doesn't seem like much fun. Better to reframe it as something more positive.

Nope.

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My Dad chose my name and he chose it for a reason. A reason even if not very sentimental still meaningful. If our relationship went sour I would still keep it. The moniker fits me fine.

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The only reason why I would ever change my name is if it’s so much of an inconvenience I can’t go through day to day life without some sort of problem with it. That’s not an issue for me.

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ETA: If you want to change your name for whatever reason that is just go ahead and do it. Not just because of another person. A name is just something to identify yourself with at the end of the day.

This message was edited 12/29/2022, 3:27 PM

No.

Nope nope nopity nope. I am me.