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One of my friends had a baby a couple weeks ago...baby's name is Brittani Taleah. FN is after the mom's (living) childhood best friend and MN is the same as the mom's.
What would your reaction be if one of your friends named their child after you?
Do you like when daughters are named after their mothers, or not?
I saw the baby today and wondered what I would name her...the first thing that came to mind was Esther Analucia. Wdyto it?
What would your reaction be if one of your friends named their child after you?
Do you like when daughters are named after their mothers, or not?
I saw the baby today and wondered what I would name her...the first thing that came to mind was Esther Analucia. Wdyto it?
This message was edited 9/8/2018, 3:13 PM
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forgot to comment on daughter's inheritance of mother's name
I scarcely understand why daughters cannot or should not share a mother's first name; especially if sons (may) share a father's first name.
Why can't a daughter share her father's name, or a son, that of his mother? These names can moved to middle positions, hyphenated (double-barreled), or in some other way appended. Such attributes are more common in certain cultures beyond the US. Mary / Marie / Maria is quite common for boys - especially in the middle position, but is not necessarily limited to this. In Russia it is more common than not for a daughter's middle name to be a "feminized version" of her father's first name. Other (more) European cultures might replicate the exact version. It does not necessitate the daughter to become a tom-boy; nor would it necessitate the boy to become feminine or effeminate - it simply doesn't.
I scarcely understand why daughters cannot or should not share a mother's first name; especially if sons (may) share a father's first name.
Why can't a daughter share her father's name, or a son, that of his mother? These names can moved to middle positions, hyphenated (double-barreled), or in some other way appended. Such attributes are more common in certain cultures beyond the US. Mary / Marie / Maria is quite common for boys - especially in the middle position, but is not necessarily limited to this. In Russia it is more common than not for a daughter's middle name to be a "feminized version" of her father's first name. Other (more) European cultures might replicate the exact version. It does not necessitate the daughter to become a tom-boy; nor would it necessitate the boy to become feminine or effeminate - it simply doesn't.
This message was edited 9/12/2018, 1:23 AM
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I think it’s pretty. It’s definitely a throwback.
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Naming after non-family is really tricky imo because you never know what might happen to that relationship. It’s like tattooing the name of a friend or lover to your body. Lots of potential for regret,
Also, it’s not a great name to begin with and is difficult to pass off as not being used because of that person.
Also, it’s not a great name to begin with and is difficult to pass off as not being used because of that person.
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Honorary names are flattering, so if one were named after me - I'd be immensely flattered (somehow I do not anticipate this will occur - smile).
Esther Analucia - is an astounding name.
With Esther - I hear, more 'associate' with "ethereal". I might add less emphasis on the letter "s" than any standard US pronunciation - (If I were Esther or the person who named her).
I LOVE that the middle name begins with Ana "refer back"; and that here, the reference is to that "ethereal" spirit so honored in this young, re-created embodiment - this is stunningly beautiful.
Esther Analucia - is an astounding name.
With Esther - I hear, more 'associate' with "ethereal". I might add less emphasis on the letter "s" than any standard US pronunciation - (If I were Esther or the person who named her).
I LOVE that the middle name begins with Ana "refer back"; and that here, the reference is to that "ethereal" spirit so honored in this young, re-created embodiment - this is stunningly beautiful.
This message was edited 9/9/2018, 10:07 AM
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I dislike all the Brittany names, but Brittani is particularly, well, young-looking. Immature. Brittany would be close enough, surely, or Britta?
No connections with Taleah. Looks made-up.
I'd be somewhat flattered, I suppose! But I'd prefer it to be used as a mn.
I think it must be inconvenient to have two people in the same house with the same name. My mn was my paternal grandmother's mn, and is now my daughter's second mn, but that's OK, neither of us uses it.
I'd rather be Esther than Brittany, that's certain! Unfamiliar with Analucia - Anna, Anne, Lucia or Lucy would be nice.
No connections with Taleah. Looks made-up.
I'd be somewhat flattered, I suppose! But I'd prefer it to be used as a mn.
I think it must be inconvenient to have two people in the same house with the same name. My mn was my paternal grandmother's mn, and is now my daughter's second mn, but that's OK, neither of us uses it.
I'd rather be Esther than Brittany, that's certain! Unfamiliar with Analucia - Anna, Anne, Lucia or Lucy would be nice.
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I'm not a fan at all.
1. Because Brittani is outdated and poorly spelled no matter how lovely mom's friend may be.
2. Because I wouldn't want my child and bff to have the same name, especially not a first name if they're going to be in one another's lives (and you have to assume they will be).
I wouldn't like it at all if my friend did it for their child's first name. When I was a year or two old, a friend of my mom's named her newborn daughter after me and my best friend. (Our mothers were who were there for her when she had her baby so rather than name her daughter Wanda Cynthia after them, she named her daughter Lindsey Nicole after their young daughters.) Even though we rarely saw this girl, I think it's been weird for all of us most of our lives. She originally went by Nicole which was weird for my friend and then she grew up and started to go by Lindsey which was weird for me. It always felt like she didn't get her own identity. Idk. And from what I know of her, she's a sweet girl, but she was always both looking to be her own person while simultaneously trying to make my bff and I really proud of her. It was like she always wanted our approval and I feel like without the name tethering us together that she probably wouldn't have cared (which is how it should be). Idk. It's not the same, but I don't like naming babies after people who are still alive or who are relatively young. (And my personal feelings aside, I'm part Jewish and we don't name after living people anyway.)
I don't like when daughters are named after their mothers for much of the same reason. I don't like children named after other people much at all. I just want children to have their own identities.
Obviously I had a lot more feelings on that than I realized.
1. Because Brittani is outdated and poorly spelled no matter how lovely mom's friend may be.
2. Because I wouldn't want my child and bff to have the same name, especially not a first name if they're going to be in one another's lives (and you have to assume they will be).
I wouldn't like it at all if my friend did it for their child's first name. When I was a year or two old, a friend of my mom's named her newborn daughter after me and my best friend. (Our mothers were who were there for her when she had her baby so rather than name her daughter Wanda Cynthia after them, she named her daughter Lindsey Nicole after their young daughters.) Even though we rarely saw this girl, I think it's been weird for all of us most of our lives. She originally went by Nicole which was weird for my friend and then she grew up and started to go by Lindsey which was weird for me. It always felt like she didn't get her own identity. Idk. And from what I know of her, she's a sweet girl, but she was always both looking to be her own person while simultaneously trying to make my bff and I really proud of her. It was like she always wanted our approval and I feel like without the name tethering us together that she probably wouldn't have cared (which is how it should be). Idk. It's not the same, but I don't like naming babies after people who are still alive or who are relatively young. (And my personal feelings aside, I'm part Jewish and we don't name after living people anyway.)
I don't like when daughters are named after their mothers for much of the same reason. I don't like children named after other people much at all. I just want children to have their own identities.
Obviously I had a lot more feelings on that than I realized.
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I would be honoured if one of my friends named their daughter after me, because to me it means I have a special place in their heart.
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I don't mind a daughter having her mother's name for a middle name, but I really don't like it when a daughter has her mother's first name as her own first name. It doesn't happen often, fortunately, but when it does, they usually go by the middle name anyway, so why not just reverse them to begin with?
I think I'd cringe if a friend named her daughter after me. Come on, I'm not dead, stretch your brain a little. It's not that great a name anyhow. I'd also feel kind of obligated, if I didn't already have kids, and think she expected me to name a daughter after her. I wouldn't do it, but I wouldn't like the implication.
I think I'd cringe if a friend named her daughter after me. Come on, I'm not dead, stretch your brain a little. It's not that great a name anyhow. I'd also feel kind of obligated, if I didn't already have kids, and think she expected me to name a daughter after her. I wouldn't do it, but I wouldn't like the implication.
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agreed 100%
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I'm not fond of using family names but I have to say I like to see a family honor both parents, not just the father, if that's their thing.
Naming a kid after a best friend? Hmm, I guess it could be along the same thought as using a siblings name of they were that close. I think I'd rather be asked to help come up with names than someone use my name, but I don't even like my name, I'd never give it to anyone else. I'd be honored to help name their kid if someone wished to give me that honor
Naming a kid after a best friend? Hmm, I guess it could be along the same thought as using a siblings name of they were that close. I think I'd rather be asked to help come up with names than someone use my name, but I don't even like my name, I'd never give it to anyone else. I'd be honored to help name their kid if someone wished to give me that honor
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I honestly think naming your kid after a living person is a bit weird. I would not name my kid after a person that was still alive because I could have a falling out with that person.
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