Maybe I should have specified they're all in their 50s and 40s by now, and working class. Without necessarily being ultra-devout, this kind of family would have been some what Catholic.
"We have to live without sympathy, don't we? That's impossible of course. We act it to one another, all this hardness; but we aren't like that really, I mean...one can't be out in the cold all the time; one has to come in from the cold...d'you see what I mean?”
John LeCarré