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HelpRe: Question about names and cultures
in reply to a message by RegalAmethyst
I just replied to Rachel Shaina about Japanese names - I like some but would feel wrong using them. I feel like this makes me a hypocrite. (Apologies if this is the 543765th time I've mentioned this, but it's relevant to the topic.)
I hate my FN and had no MN, and wanted to change it but avoid a family feud, so I chose a MN and go by that outside the family. I love my mother, but I never felt the name she gave me fit me. I had chosen a name well before the change - Fiammetta. I can't explain it but it just felt right for me. I have no regrets, but I'm afraid people are going to judge me for choosing a name outside my culture. I am Portuguese and French-Canadian, my maiden name was Portuguese, and when I got married (after the name change) I took my husband's German Jewish surname. On top of all that, my first name is made up (my mom found it in a name book). At the very least I have heritage on the same continent (as opposed to Japan) and I did this to myself, not a child. I know that those are not good excuses, but the reasons for changing my name - specifically to Fiammetta - are very personal.
I don't care what people name their children, provided the name is not harmful to the child (i.e. incorporating hate speech, etc).
I hate my FN and had no MN, and wanted to change it but avoid a family feud, so I chose a MN and go by that outside the family. I love my mother, but I never felt the name she gave me fit me. I had chosen a name well before the change - Fiammetta. I can't explain it but it just felt right for me. I have no regrets, but I'm afraid people are going to judge me for choosing a name outside my culture. I am Portuguese and French-Canadian, my maiden name was Portuguese, and when I got married (after the name change) I took my husband's German Jewish surname. On top of all that, my first name is made up (my mom found it in a name book). At the very least I have heritage on the same continent (as opposed to Japan) and I did this to myself, not a child. I know that those are not good excuses, but the reasons for changing my name - specifically to Fiammetta - are very personal.
I don't care what people name their children, provided the name is not harmful to the child (i.e. incorporating hate speech, etc).
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