Re: Zoe
in reply to a message by Elena
She was very touched. When I told her I was going to do it, she just said, "Oh." She wasn't very verbally demonstrative, though she said it in a pleased tone. Then at my daughter's christening, when the minister said the name "Victoria Zoe", I looked at my mother, and she had tears in her eyes. This is the example I often cite when somebody says, "I know that my grandmother wouldn't have wanted me to use her exact name to honor her, because she hated her name." Nope, ain't necessarily so!
The fact that my mother died when my daughter was thirteen months old made me glad that I used her name, and glad that she at least lived to see that.
The fact that my mother died when my daughter was thirteen months old made me glad that I used her name, and glad that she at least lived to see that.
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I agree with this.
My grandmother hated her name (mostly because her father named her and she didn't have a good opinion of him, and since she was a tenth child her name was a bit of an afterthought), not to mention the fact that everyone called here Bara or Barica, but she was thrilled when I told her that I plan to name my future daughter Barbara after her.
The thing is, my wanting to honor her has nothing to do with her particular name and everything to do with my love for her (at least that's how I see honoring).
My grandmother hated her name (mostly because her father named her and she didn't have a good opinion of him, and since she was a tenth child her name was a bit of an afterthought), not to mention the fact that everyone called here Bara or Barica, but she was thrilled when I told her that I plan to name my future daughter Barbara after her.
The thing is, my wanting to honor her has nothing to do with her particular name and everything to do with my love for her (at least that's how I see honoring).
Ooh, I'm so glad she lived to see it as well. Great story, Janice.