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Help[Opinions] Re: Prisciana
in reply to a message by Fiammetta
Hm. There could be a cultural difference.
It seems to me that some factors might be - People read women differently at different ages. Clothing and other signals might also matter ... the more classy and serious and "your competitive peer" a person looks, the more vexing and odd I think it might be, to be asked a frivolous personal question by them.
I've been obviously middle aged, and likely come off nonthreatening, "mom"-ish ... I've commented on and asked about people's names a few times and found they seemed happy to chat about it. I would never have done that when I was younger because of the risk of seeming flirtatious.
I also would never do it in a more "classy" or formal context - like I'll ask the server at a burger joint about her name, but not the server at a fancy restaurant.
- mirfak
It seems to me that some factors might be - People read women differently at different ages. Clothing and other signals might also matter ... the more classy and serious and "your competitive peer" a person looks, the more vexing and odd I think it might be, to be asked a frivolous personal question by them.
I've been obviously middle aged, and likely come off nonthreatening, "mom"-ish ... I've commented on and asked about people's names a few times and found they seemed happy to chat about it. I would never have done that when I was younger because of the risk of seeming flirtatious.
I also would never do it in a more "classy" or formal context - like I'll ask the server at a burger joint about her name, but not the server at a fancy restaurant.
- mirfak
