Wait, so does your friend's husband pronounce his name as 'Gray-am' or 'Gram'?
I just can't imagine that anyone could reasonably get '
Gray' out of
Graham as it is pronounced where I live (to get anything that sounds even remotely like 'gray' into '
Graham', I end up sounding like I'm affecting a British accent), that they would ever attempt to, or even that they would think to, and I stand by putting it on my list.