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in reply to a message by Mbw
I think you can do both. You can totally put Sofia on the paperwork, and have her dad call her Sofia, and her mother call her Sophie.
You can have "officially Sofia on state paperwork" enroll at school to be known only as "Sophie" if you wish.
You can change your mind and decide you like Sofie, or Sofi. You can change it back every few months according to the child's preference.
What you can't do (at least, not easily, cost-free, and smugly), is change what you put on the paperwork. Paperwork is a commitment, kinda.
I love Sophia, and Sofia is less my thing but it's the same name so I like it too. I love Sophie, and Sofie is nice but not as pretty looking somehow as Sofia or Sophie. Whatever, they're all the same, it's just spelling ... nobody's going to attend for long to how it's spelled, they just learn it, once and done.
Sophia Juliet and Sophia Marie - either name is good. Common isn't bad. Frequent enough to have a chance to meet at least one other Sophia Marie / Sophia Juliet in her life, won't be stalkable on the internet forever... it's tempting to want to make it "different" and to fret about what is too common, but honestly even the top names are not that common anymore, and everyone's trying so hard to be "different" that names are *so* diverse now, being different is nothing. Also kids like having names that most people recognize, can easily read correctly, and like (which is what popularity means - that a lot of people like it).
I prefer Marie over Juliet, because I just personally am not into Juliet, I like Julia much more. Isabel is also lovely. Sofia Isabel, definitely.
Maybe try slotting her grandmothers' or other relatives' first names, or the names of women you and your husband care about / admire, into the blank after Sofia, and see if any sound appealing.
If I were naming a daughter Sophia today, I might make her middle name be Caroline. Or Violet, or Martina or Marina.
- mirfak
You can have "officially Sofia on state paperwork" enroll at school to be known only as "Sophie" if you wish.
You can change your mind and decide you like Sofie, or Sofi. You can change it back every few months according to the child's preference.
What you can't do (at least, not easily, cost-free, and smugly), is change what you put on the paperwork. Paperwork is a commitment, kinda.
I love Sophia, and Sofia is less my thing but it's the same name so I like it too. I love Sophie, and Sofie is nice but not as pretty looking somehow as Sofia or Sophie. Whatever, they're all the same, it's just spelling ... nobody's going to attend for long to how it's spelled, they just learn it, once and done.
Sophia Juliet and Sophia Marie - either name is good. Common isn't bad. Frequent enough to have a chance to meet at least one other Sophia Marie / Sophia Juliet in her life, won't be stalkable on the internet forever... it's tempting to want to make it "different" and to fret about what is too common, but honestly even the top names are not that common anymore, and everyone's trying so hard to be "different" that names are *so* diverse now, being different is nothing. Also kids like having names that most people recognize, can easily read correctly, and like (which is what popularity means - that a lot of people like it).
I prefer Marie over Juliet, because I just personally am not into Juliet, I like Julia much more. Isabel is also lovely. Sofia Isabel, definitely.
Maybe try slotting her grandmothers' or other relatives' first names, or the names of women you and your husband care about / admire, into the blank after Sofia, and see if any sound appealing.
If I were naming a daughter Sophia today, I might make her middle name be Caroline. Or Violet, or Martina or Marina.
- mirfak
This message was edited 1/11/2024, 10:13 PM
