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in reply to a message by Aine
Sorry, probably shouldn't have worded it like that on this board. My family and I use "gross cow" as a term for someone who swears a lot (looong story, but it involves a cow we once saw on holidays), so my mother calls my brother and I gross cows when we swear, I probably say this to my husband once a day when he swears around T or other small children. Not a gendered comment (especially since the men in my family cop it most), just a 'in joke'. I forget that I don't actually know people here IRL.
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I know there are all sorts of turns of phrase but that one is especially bothersome to me, especially because in-joke with family or not, 'cow' is a fairly loaded term to use when referring to a woman IMO.
Also, I get that Constance Hall overshares and she's definitely not everyone's cup of tea but people do call her a 'gross cow' and far worse regularly. Part of it is a classist thing, some of it is just plain bullying...it's sad. There are many media personalities that annoy me but I never think of calling someone awful things like that- I just go "not for me" and move on. I like that Constance has created a community that supports women and she doesn't lower herself to the level of her detractors. She became popular because she does make many women feel like they're not alone and that so many of the more unpleasant sides of motherhood or being a woman are just not talked about openly because it's "oversharing" or "in poor taste" (and I think that's bull shit) but she says it how it is and people relate and their life feels normalized. So like her or not, I think she does some good in the world. And I definitely don't agree with every post she makes and I don't follow her closely but I do think she does some good for many women.
Also, I get that Constance Hall overshares and she's definitely not everyone's cup of tea but people do call her a 'gross cow' and far worse regularly. Part of it is a classist thing, some of it is just plain bullying...it's sad. There are many media personalities that annoy me but I never think of calling someone awful things like that- I just go "not for me" and move on. I like that Constance has created a community that supports women and she doesn't lower herself to the level of her detractors. She became popular because she does make many women feel like they're not alone and that so many of the more unpleasant sides of motherhood or being a woman are just not talked about openly because it's "oversharing" or "in poor taste" (and I think that's bull shit) but she says it how it is and people relate and their life feels normalized. So like her or not, I think she does some good in the world. And I definitely don't agree with every post she makes and I don't follow her closely but I do think she does some good for many women.
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That’s an interesting turn of phrase...
If you think she’s gross you can just say that and it’s fine, it’s cow that’s the problem! I would honestly take more issue with being called a cow by another woman than I would if the same woman called me a bitch (it’s when men use the latter that really gets me angry).
If you think she’s gross you can just say that and it’s fine, it’s cow that’s the problem! I would honestly take more issue with being called a cow by another woman than I would if the same woman called me a bitch (it’s when men use the latter that really gets me angry).
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