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The article said the mom is a caterer supervisor and hasn't missed a day of work in two years. Around Christmas, she noticed her feet began to swell but thought it was because she was working 50-hour weeks. Other than that, she said she had no clue. The doctor quoted in the piece said it happens more often than people think. I don't get it either because my babies MOVED and as already stated, Ellie is a large baby! Still, this mom is a larger woman and I suppose it is possible (well, obviously, it is possible, duh). :-)

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I mean, she can explain away a lot of the symptoms of pregnancy but...she missed her period for nine months!What woman misses her monthly week of horror more than two or three times and doesn't reach the conclusion that she's pregnant, hitting the menopause and/or -really- needs to see a doctor?! I mean, you can say she's large, that she blamed her feet on working, that she never knew what a baby inside her felt like... but I can't think of a sensible, healthy grown woman who'd ignore missing her periods for that amount of time.I mean... I don't want to believe this...

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There are three possibilities:One, that she continued to have light periods throughout her pregnancy, at the time her periods would normally have come, and just thought her periods were lighter. This can happen.Two, that she had always had irregular and/or infrequent periods anyway and so thought nothing of it. Women with infrequent and/or irregular periods are usually less fertile than women who have regular periods, and sometimes they are stubbornly infertile, but it can happen that they do get pregnant.Third possibility is that she's as obtuse as you say. You can believe it. I saw a couple of episodes of a television show all about it.
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I had a friend who didn't know she was pregnant until she was three weeks away from her due date. Her periods had always been wonky and she was using a new method of birth control, so she chalked it up to that. It happens.

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If she was very irregular and often skipped a period or three, or she had spotting the whole time, I can sort of see where she could convince herself nothing strange was going on. But again, it smacks of either stupidity or deep denial. Pregnancy has such a constellation of symptoms, not least includes breast changes. And like I said, the feeling of a near-full-term baby moving around inside you cannot be mistaken for anything else. It's just not believable.
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There's a whole tv show dedicated to this. It's not as uncommon as you'd think. All the episodes of "I didn't know I was pregnant" that I've seen, the mothers explain away symptoms to other logocal things or they really do display no symptoms. Many say they never felt the baby move in a way that signified to them that there was anything alive moving around. And some never gain weight or gain only like 5-10 lbs and think nothing of it.
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