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in reply to a message by Cake or Death
If somebody asks you repeatedly to pronounce their name a certain way, I consider it rude not to try.
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Especially if it's not a sound foreign to them; like few westerners would pronounce Chinese names exactly as they are pronounced in Chinese, but the s versus z sound should be easy to manage and shouldn't need repeated reminders.
It's about as rude as repeatedly calling someone by a nn when they've asked specifically to be called by another nn or by the full name. It may not be intentional rudeness, but it is rude.
Especially if it's not a sound foreign to them; like few westerners would pronounce Chinese names exactly as they are pronounced in Chinese, but the s versus z sound should be easy to manage and shouldn't need repeated reminders.
It's about as rude as repeatedly calling someone by a nn when they've asked specifically to be called by another nn or by the full name. It may not be intentional rudeness, but it is rude.
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No, this particular instance is silly. My own name can be an example, although I'm not certain how to explain it accurately in type. Most people pronounce the first syllable of my name with the A sound like the A sound in "sand". But a few people, including my own father, pronounce the first syllable with a flatter A sound, like the A sound in "cat". It's a matter of accent, I think, my father said a few other words differently than the rest of the family, such as "rowt" for "route" when the rest of the family said "root". (Although he was from the same area as the rest of us so I don't know why this was so.) It's one little sound, a matter of accent more than anything else. I can just see myself pitching fits at people who use the "cat" syllable and not the "can" syllable.
This message was edited 8/4/2020, 9:10 AM
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My point, though, is that it's one little sound. Not something like "Cynthia" rather than "Cindy" or pronouncing Aisling the correct way as ASH-lyn instead of the way that most Americans would initially think, AYZ-lin. I really think I'd find it impossible to say "LES-lie" rather than "LEZ-lie" on a regular basis. It's like trying to "correct" an accent.
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