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I can identify with the desire to change your last name. My son, too, would like to change his name. He is like you in that he has no connection to his father anymore. He is currently wanting to change his name to my last name (Young) because my husband has been more of a father to him than his own. I am reluctant to allow him to do that, however, because I feel that your last name of birth has alot to do with your own self-identification. On the other hand, being at a point in your life that you can choose one for yourself would probably be quite liberating especially if that name you are "stuck with" is one that only brings painful memories with it.

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I say all of that to say that you should choose one that defines who you are and who your sister is; perhaps a hyphenated name would work better than just one. That way it is a blend of the things that are unique to both of you. By looking at your own suggestions, it seems as though you are looking for something unique, so I don't think Smith or Jones would be in the running. My own last name is rather bland--Young. You are welcome to use it though. Some other suggestions from my own family tree are Holifield, Daniels, Lee, Cuevas, Bond, Lott, Hickman, and Gardner. I wish you well in your search. May the Lord bless whatever name you decide upon.