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I would not ask the child at this point because she may think that you want to change it and say yes to gain favor when in reality she does not want it changed. I don't think at this point that you should change it. Maybe when she is older if sshe wants it changed you could make it a possibility. Good Luck.

I agree with the others that have posted. A name is something that is a gift from a birth parent and often the only thing a child in an adoptive situation actually owns. Perhaps the child is even named for somebody in her biological family, even if she no longer has a biological family. A child of that age shouldn't make decisons of that scale anyway because they may regret it when they are older. MY suggestion would to keep the name she knows, and as a gift to her from her new mother (you), offer her the opportunity to change it later if SHE brings it up or if she is uncomfortable with it or dislikes it. Your MiL could use a pet name for her new grandaughter if she dislikes it so, and that name could be something that they could share together.

Hi Tammy,
I'm an adoptive parent too. I did not change my daughter's first name. I always tell her it is one thing she'll always have ...a gift from her birthmother. And her gift from me was her middle name.(and a loving permanent home)

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Ask Uyla. If she likes her name I see no reason to change it. She's the one who is going to have to live with it for the rest of her life. She may have a suggestion.

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Blessing to you,
Kat
Proud adopted mother of Sha'Vaughna Nicole

The only thing an adopted child really has which is their own is their name.

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I agree with Pavlos but your best name would be to keep the name, it's nice and the child is 7 so obviously she's used to it.

I am almost certain that Uyla is a form of Julia. Other forms include Yulia and Yuliya.
I also have a very southern (Greek) surname, and was never made fun of it (when in Greece, at least :P).
I think Uyla is fine, but if you are determined to change it, I suggest that you go for "Julia" and continue calling her Uyla as a nickname.