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HelpRe: Is it wrong to give your baby a tribal name if you're not from that tribe?
in reply to a message by Dianatiger
Ooof, I gave a genuine response to this poster and now I do feel like I've been feeding a troll.
Good troll-hunting, but I will say be careful with your points about '3. Inconsistent Relationship Dynamics', for example, a partner wanting to "open" a relationship (e.g. cheat) and becoming hostile and agressive when their partner meets other people and has more success in the "open" relationship is actually pretty common in some (in my opinion) unhealthy relationships. 'Inconsistant dynamics' like that could also be indicative of an abusive situation. Your other points still stand undisputed, but a partner "opening" a relationship and then becoming physically abusive when they feel "cheated on" is unfortunately far from the least believable part of this. Whilst this is probably a creative writing exercise by a very bored person, I do think we've gotta be aware that being dismissive of 'inconsistant relationship dynamics' could prevent people in genuinely difficult relationships asking for support because they feel they might not be believed. (I feel obliged to say that on the odd chance anyone reading this IS in an abusive situation, please do reach out for support as people will believe you and support you and help you out of the situation you are in. If this OP is just a troll, the use of a DV "storyline" is sadly unoriginal and just unbelievably low and scummy)
Also no sex during pregnancy is sadly a thing some people genuinely believe. Most people get rubbish sex ed. I grew up in the UK (better sex ed than the US but still not great) and I knew guys who thought women were straight on haemorrhaging for a week when we got our periods ("how do you bleed for a week and not die?"), that we can hold our periods in, and that we pee and bleed from the same place...so... thinking no sex during pregnancy does not really read troll or satire to me, it could (not in this case with everything added up) just be faulty education.
Good troll-hunting, but I will say be careful with your points about '3. Inconsistent Relationship Dynamics', for example, a partner wanting to "open" a relationship (e.g. cheat) and becoming hostile and agressive when their partner meets other people and has more success in the "open" relationship is actually pretty common in some (in my opinion) unhealthy relationships. 'Inconsistant dynamics' like that could also be indicative of an abusive situation. Your other points still stand undisputed, but a partner "opening" a relationship and then becoming physically abusive when they feel "cheated on" is unfortunately far from the least believable part of this. Whilst this is probably a creative writing exercise by a very bored person, I do think we've gotta be aware that being dismissive of 'inconsistant relationship dynamics' could prevent people in genuinely difficult relationships asking for support because they feel they might not be believed. (I feel obliged to say that on the odd chance anyone reading this IS in an abusive situation, please do reach out for support as people will believe you and support you and help you out of the situation you are in. If this OP is just a troll, the use of a DV "storyline" is sadly unoriginal and just unbelievably low and scummy)
Also no sex during pregnancy is sadly a thing some people genuinely believe. Most people get rubbish sex ed. I grew up in the UK (better sex ed than the US but still not great) and I knew guys who thought women were straight on haemorrhaging for a week when we got our periods ("how do you bleed for a week and not die?"), that we can hold our periods in, and that we pee and bleed from the same place...so... thinking no sex during pregnancy does not really read troll or satire to me, it could (not in this case with everything added up) just be faulty education.
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You make valid points. I will only add that though people can falsely believe pregnant women can't engage in intimacy, OP had previously written contradictory statements concerning pregnency intimacy involvement and beliefs.