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Totally! And I think for me, the issue was about wondering if it was fair of me to give a boy a name that would challenge so many other people and probably make his life more difficult. Even though I agree with the principles and would WANT a son that is sensitive, gentle, home-loving etc, to put a name on him that really broadcasts those ideas would make him the focus of a lot of people's discomfort and confusion and it wouldn't be fair to designate him as like, a mascot for my beliefs - even if I think they are correct. I think it's easier for girls to wear boy names because in a lot of ways, humans still see maleness as "default human" and respectable.