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HelpChristian, and it's obvious religious ties
I've been thinking about the name Christian again after running into an old childhood classmate with this name not too long ago. It's an obvious signifier for Christianity, so I would be genuinely surprised to come across someone named Christian who did not identify with the religion. Yet, strangely enough, I have met at least two Christians who were never raised as Christians nor identified as such. This fascinates me because it implies that their parents appreciated the merits of the name itself, divorced from its religious implications.
One would naturally assume that having this name would encourage religious discussion, for better or worse, throughout a person's lifetime. People might even attribute certain beliefs and attitudes to someone named Christian in a stereotypical way. In fact, I would venture to say this isn't a mere possibility but a definitive future prospect. On the flip side of inviting religious discussion, people might find someone named Christian unapproachable if they come from a different spiritual background or have experienced religious trauma. This could lead to lost opportunities for forming connections.
Being associated with such a widespread practice and organization would be challenging, as it ties the individual to something much larger than themselves. This association could lead to both individual and macro-level grievances affecting how others perceive the person with that name. Additionally, if someone named Christian were to deconstruct their faith later in life, how would they feel about their name then? Would they want to change it to something similar, like Christopher, or choose an entirely different name?
No parents name their children with the anticipation that their child might someday have a different spiritual affinity. However, as someone who has similarly deconstructed their faith and has a religiously connoted first name, "Grace," I've thought about this issue. Although my mom secretly named me after Grace Kelly aka Princess Grace, my father's tipping point for agreeing to the name was purely based on its religious implications. I feel Grace has more secular accessibility compared to Christian. Grace can easily be seen as simply as an older classic without necessarily invoking strong religious connotations. This makes it a bit easier to navigate different social and spiritual contexts.
What is your opinion on this? I actually think at a base level Christian is kind of a handsome man's name, if I am able to mentally divorce it from my previous negative experiences with the religion.
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One would naturally assume that having this name would encourage religious discussion, for better or worse, throughout a person's lifetime. People might even attribute certain beliefs and attitudes to someone named Christian in a stereotypical way. In fact, I would venture to say this isn't a mere possibility but a definitive future prospect. On the flip side of inviting religious discussion, people might find someone named Christian unapproachable if they come from a different spiritual background or have experienced religious trauma. This could lead to lost opportunities for forming connections.
Being associated with such a widespread practice and organization would be challenging, as it ties the individual to something much larger than themselves. This association could lead to both individual and macro-level grievances affecting how others perceive the person with that name. Additionally, if someone named Christian were to deconstruct their faith later in life, how would they feel about their name then? Would they want to change it to something similar, like Christopher, or choose an entirely different name?
No parents name their children with the anticipation that their child might someday have a different spiritual affinity. However, as someone who has similarly deconstructed their faith and has a religiously connoted first name, "Grace," I've thought about this issue. Although my mom secretly named me after Grace Kelly aka Princess Grace, my father's tipping point for agreeing to the name was purely based on its religious implications. I feel Grace has more secular accessibility compared to Christian. Grace can easily be seen as simply as an older classic without necessarily invoking strong religious connotations. This makes it a bit easier to navigate different social and spiritual contexts.
What is your opinion on this? I actually think at a base level Christian is kind of a handsome man's name, if I am able to mentally divorce it from my previous negative experiences with the religion.
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This message was edited 8/2/2024, 1:11 PM
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I don’t like Christian that much but I ‘d say by now the name is kind of divorced from religious implications. None of the people I’ve met by this name were particularly religious. Though it would be very odd for say, a person with a Muslim or Jewish background to be named Christian.
I appreciate family names; also the names of friends. But there are so many to choose from ... I have two grandfathers named Thomas and two great-grandmothers named Christiana, and I haven't used either name. Both are good. But, I'd be more likely to use Thomas, nn Tom, as a fn and Christiana as a mn: Thomas is biblical, but it's also been used freely for millennia. Christiana ... does seem more like waving a specific flag. And as a completely non-religious person, that would seem like sailing under false colours. As a mn, that problem - if it is one - goes away. And Hypothetical Daughter could always say 'I'm Jane. Actually, I'm Jane Christiana Florence, after some of my mum's ancestors', and that would be fine.
The funny thing about names is they have a habit of transcending their origins. This goes for many other names that come to us from the Bible, on top of the fact that some have mutated into multiple variants (Fifty bajillion forms of John). Some people just like a name for other reasons. They like the way it sounds, it belonged to a family member, belongs to an author/artist/celeb they like, the 'vibe', etc.
This message was edited 8/2/2024, 4:33 PM
Well, first off, grace has a lot of different connotations besides the Grace of God. Physical grace, graciousness, favor, etc. (It's even used sarcastically when someone does something clumsy or has a silly accident. "Nice going, Grace.")
As for Christian: remember that a lot of people don't specifically call themselves Christians or go in for the church, Bible study, etc, but do things strongly associated with Christianity, like christening their babies, choosing godparents, celebrating Christmas and Easter.
So a not-strongly-religious person naming their son Christian isn't actually odd. Not as odd as, say, a Jewish person doing that.
I don't think even a minimally well-adjusted person would be put off by meeting someone called Christian even if their own religious views were very different or they had a beef with the religion. For one thing they'd surely recognize that the name wasn't self-chosen.
In real life, changing one's name legally and officially isn't all that common. A Christian who later became an atheist (or a Jew or a Muslim) might well do so, or just go by Chris like he always has, or maybe just start going by a middle name but not bother to legally change his name. Or he might hang onto the full name and act all ironic about it, but if so I'd expect him to be an atheist rather than some other defined, practicing faith; that would be kind of a big F-U, on -purpose move.
As for Christian: remember that a lot of people don't specifically call themselves Christians or go in for the church, Bible study, etc, but do things strongly associated with Christianity, like christening their babies, choosing godparents, celebrating Christmas and Easter.
So a not-strongly-religious person naming their son Christian isn't actually odd. Not as odd as, say, a Jewish person doing that.
I don't think even a minimally well-adjusted person would be put off by meeting someone called Christian even if their own religious views were very different or they had a beef with the religion. For one thing they'd surely recognize that the name wasn't self-chosen.
In real life, changing one's name legally and officially isn't all that common. A Christian who later became an atheist (or a Jew or a Muslim) might well do so, or just go by Chris like he always has, or maybe just start going by a middle name but not bother to legally change his name. Or he might hang onto the full name and act all ironic about it, but if so I'd expect him to be an atheist rather than some other defined, practicing faith; that would be kind of a big F-U, on -purpose move.
Right, that's some Fair points. I have a fair amount of religious trauma but I can't necessarily remember any moment feeling unwilling to engage with someone named Christian because of that, at least at a conscious level that is
I think it’s way too strange to name a person after a religion. Always hated this name.
I've known far more non-Christian Christians than Christian Christians (say that five times fast), as well as many non religious Christinas and Christophers, too. I even knew of a sibset of Christian and Kirsten, and the parents were atheists! For that reason I don't see it as a very religious name - I get stronger religious vibes from Biblical names.
My own middle name is a Christ- name and my parents did not care about religion at all. They just liked the sound. It was a popular choice in the 70s and 80s.
I definitely went through a phase of being perturbed that my middle name was so tied to one religion, but eventually I was able to appreciate the sound of it rather than the meaning. I started meeting lots of other people with names that don't have anything to do with their religion, and realized that most people really just care about the sounds of names more than anything.
It's actually quite refreshing to be able to separate the name from the meaning and association. It opened up new ways of seeing things for me.
My own middle name is a Christ- name and my parents did not care about religion at all. They just liked the sound. It was a popular choice in the 70s and 80s.
I definitely went through a phase of being perturbed that my middle name was so tied to one religion, but eventually I was able to appreciate the sound of it rather than the meaning. I started meeting lots of other people with names that don't have anything to do with their religion, and realized that most people really just care about the sounds of names more than anything.
It's actually quite refreshing to be able to separate the name from the meaning and association. It opened up new ways of seeing things for me.
I totally agree with the sentiment of appreciating sound and aesthetic over that of original etymological implications at times. Meanings and familiarity of the meanings can be fun, but at the end of the day most people are not familiar with those connotations and moreso of the pop culture connections in broader Society. As we've talked about before often and many times a name can still be perceived as pretty or desirable divorced from its origin.
I remember really latching onto the etymology of "Christ" so I could tell myself it didn't really mean "Christian"; it meant "anointed". Like, something scared, just general sacredness. That appeased me.
That is a lovely way to think of it I think, as you are indeed sacred Chloë 💐😄
Speaking personally with my own experience, the first thing I think of when I hear Christian is a masculine name and not religion. It's far too tied with religion for me, but I think because of where I grew up, Christian isn't exactly a religion-only name. I, too, have known Christians who are non-religious / have non-religious families. I think part of it is naming after older family members.