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Re: How can I reduce excessive worry about name associations?
Perhaps you worry about it because the names are from a culture you're not fully familiar with, and you recognize that it's possible you don't understand the implications and consequences of certain names? I would probably worry about that too if I was really into names from another culture. I ask my husband (who is born and raised in Spain) about this stuff all the time, how certain names are used in Spain, and I'm often surprised by what he tells me.I think it's good that you ask about things, and - this will sounds silly, but - don't worry that you worry, lol! It's ok to be unsure and ask questions, that's how you learn things. And if people say "don't worry about that" it's not meant as a criticism, but as reassurance. Something to keep in mind is that usually, there aren't many hard rules about names and associations in English speaking culture, especially in North America, because people here love doing and thinking whatever they want. If you think you've found a name that everyone loves, you're wrong. And if you think there's a name everyone hates, you're probably wrong too! There will probably be people who think it's a fine name. It's confusing and I don't blame you for being worried about getting it wrong!Also, think about the reasons you are using the name. If it's for a story, or a pet, or just for general interest and putting it on a list, then you don't have to worry at all. If you're naming an actual human baby, then it makes sense to be more thorough about gathering information. But most of the time? Don't worry about it :)

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Thank you.