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HelpRe: Thoughts on a nickname for my still-regretful name choice....
in reply to a message by AnaNicole
Hi AnaNicole, I wasn't sold on either name but liked them both enough to include them on the list, I'd guess they came after maybe 12-15 other preferred names which he didn't like for varying reasons (no kidding). I mentioned my top choices in another older post, but since he vetoed all of them it's a moot point. They all ended in A. And you know, I wouldn't mind Ro but that is what they call my niece Rowan, so it's not an option.
I think I AM angry with him for the way this whole thing was handled, so maybe mirfak and others are right that I was subconsciously (or consciously) going to let this grow into something ugly when I felt like the whole naming process was such an undesirable mess-for instance, he would never discuss names with me until the month the child was due, he wouldn't tell me WHY he didn't like a name (it was like pulling teeth) and he never offered up any alternatives despite repeated requests.
When we were standing at the records desk 12 hours after she was born, because I just wanted to leave the hospital and get home to my other kids, and I mentioned that I was deciding between the two names, and the secretary thought Thalia sounded like "failure", that tipped me over the edge. As I mentioned to Lily, my husband then pressured me not to wait the two extra weeks we could have and just fill the form out now, so we didn't have to go back in traffic, etc. just to fill in her name.
Looking back at my old posts and ruminations, I had a slight preference for Thalia, but neither of them was my top choice (I am sure others have dealt with this with their spouses.) Then when the compound name thing popped up over the course of several weeks it turned me off to Rosalie-so that all I was hearing in my head was Rosa Lee, and however subtle the difference it has just turned me off to the name. So now I am only left with Violet, which is nice and may be "it"-even if it is getting popular, or a made-up name deriving from what she has been given that ends in A, which was what I was hoping for all along (the ends-in-A part).
Hope that makes more sense.
I think I AM angry with him for the way this whole thing was handled, so maybe mirfak and others are right that I was subconsciously (or consciously) going to let this grow into something ugly when I felt like the whole naming process was such an undesirable mess-for instance, he would never discuss names with me until the month the child was due, he wouldn't tell me WHY he didn't like a name (it was like pulling teeth) and he never offered up any alternatives despite repeated requests.
When we were standing at the records desk 12 hours after she was born, because I just wanted to leave the hospital and get home to my other kids, and I mentioned that I was deciding between the two names, and the secretary thought Thalia sounded like "failure", that tipped me over the edge. As I mentioned to Lily, my husband then pressured me not to wait the two extra weeks we could have and just fill the form out now, so we didn't have to go back in traffic, etc. just to fill in her name.
Looking back at my old posts and ruminations, I had a slight preference for Thalia, but neither of them was my top choice (I am sure others have dealt with this with their spouses.) Then when the compound name thing popped up over the course of several weeks it turned me off to Rosalie-so that all I was hearing in my head was Rosa Lee, and however subtle the difference it has just turned me off to the name. So now I am only left with Violet, which is nice and may be "it"-even if it is getting popular, or a made-up name deriving from what she has been given that ends in A, which was what I was hoping for all along (the ends-in-A part).
Hope that makes more sense.
This message was edited 4/11/2012, 9:40 AM
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