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HelpRe: name improvement
in reply to a message by Scarlett Rose *
Anastasia is nice, and you have lots of nickname options, too. If you feel strongly about your name, then changing it was the right thing to do. It's your name, after all. However, going by a middle name can be tough - I know firsthand.
I always hated my name (I am easy to Google and I don't want people following me here, but it's pronounced exactly like Carrie-Ann). I never had a middle name. About a year ago I realized what the perfect name for me was, and I was confident in my decision to change my name save for the fact that my family would never accept it. So instead of changing my first name I became Carrie-Ann Fiammetta Lastname. Family refuses to call me Fiammetta, and all my accounts/records/license etc. have to be in my FN, of course. So anyone I deal with in terms of business, documents, etc. will call me by my FN.
Basically, my husband is the only one who calls me Fiammetta (Fia for short). It's a bit depressing, because I feel that it IS my name - I was never able to see myself as Carrie-Ann. People make me feel like I'm a kid playing games with strangers by using a fake name. Originally my husband and I were going to move, which would have been good because I'd have to introduce myself to new people, but circumstances changed.
I would have and still would like to just change the order of my names, but my FN actually begins with a K, and FKN is a questionable set of initials. ;)
Sorry for the long post, but I can completely empathize with you right now, so I had a lot to say.
I always hated my name (I am easy to Google and I don't want people following me here, but it's pronounced exactly like Carrie-Ann). I never had a middle name. About a year ago I realized what the perfect name for me was, and I was confident in my decision to change my name save for the fact that my family would never accept it. So instead of changing my first name I became Carrie-Ann Fiammetta Lastname. Family refuses to call me Fiammetta, and all my accounts/records/license etc. have to be in my FN, of course. So anyone I deal with in terms of business, documents, etc. will call me by my FN.
Basically, my husband is the only one who calls me Fiammetta (Fia for short). It's a bit depressing, because I feel that it IS my name - I was never able to see myself as Carrie-Ann. People make me feel like I'm a kid playing games with strangers by using a fake name. Originally my husband and I were going to move, which would have been good because I'd have to introduce myself to new people, but circumstances changed.
I would have and still would like to just change the order of my names, but my FN actually begins with a K, and FKN is a questionable set of initials. ;)
Sorry for the long post, but I can completely empathize with you right now, so I had a lot to say.
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oy vey... yeah... that would be an unfortunate set of initials... would be nice if other people would learn to recognize you name change choice... after all, you DID make it legal, so it technically IS your name now... I have people in my life who address me by my fn, people who address me by my mn and people who address me as the 2 togeher... depending on what part of my life they know me from and such.
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