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in reply to a message by LMS (nsi)
If you really hate the nicknames, I would think you simply wouldn't use them. Why would you call your daughter a name you hate? It just doesn't make any sense.
Also, I think Alice is short enough that most people wouldn't try to shorten it. That said, it's really up to the kid herself (once she's old enough to assert her opinion on the matter) if she chooses to accept the nicknames people sometimes automatically give. Unfortunately, after a point there's not much you as a parent can do about it if people insist on calling Alice by a nickname and she doesn't care.
Case in point: my brother and me. His name is Nicholas and mine is Allison. Our parents have NEVER used nicknames for us. (My dad actually agreed to Nicholas' name contingent on never using a nickname for him.) However, people tend to automatically shorten our names to Nick and Ally. He doesn't care, so he's now known as Nick (except in our family). I hate being called Ally, so I correct people and am known as Allison, or occasionally "Al" if someone wants a quick abbreviation.
As for my name choices -- I like most of the common nicknames for the names I've chosen. The only exception is Julia. I HATE HATE HATE the nicknames Jewel, Jules, etc. and people with Jul- names always seem to get called them. However, if I have a daughter and name her Julia, I know *I* won't call her Jules, so it'll be up to her to decide if she cares enough to correct other people.
Also, I think Alice is short enough that most people wouldn't try to shorten it. That said, it's really up to the kid herself (once she's old enough to assert her opinion on the matter) if she chooses to accept the nicknames people sometimes automatically give. Unfortunately, after a point there's not much you as a parent can do about it if people insist on calling Alice by a nickname and she doesn't care.
Case in point: my brother and me. His name is Nicholas and mine is Allison. Our parents have NEVER used nicknames for us. (My dad actually agreed to Nicholas' name contingent on never using a nickname for him.) However, people tend to automatically shorten our names to Nick and Ally. He doesn't care, so he's now known as Nick (except in our family). I hate being called Ally, so I correct people and am known as Allison, or occasionally "Al" if someone wants a quick abbreviation.
As for my name choices -- I like most of the common nicknames for the names I've chosen. The only exception is Julia. I HATE HATE HATE the nicknames Jewel, Jules, etc. and people with Jul- names always seem to get called them. However, if I have a daughter and name her Julia, I know *I* won't call her Jules, so it'll be up to her to decide if she cares enough to correct other people.
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