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in reply to a message by Chrisell
I really dislike this name but I can see it in a similar light to my own name, Heather, which I hated for years and have now come to love.
1. Both were very popular for a time. (Heather in the 1970s and 80s, Amber in the 1980s and 1990s)
2. Both are two syllables and end in -er, and there aren't a huge amount of -er names for girls (Jennifer comes to mind, which was always grossly popular...what's the attraction to -er names for girls? lol).
3. Both are word names. Heather is a flower, Amber is a gem (somewhat). I find myself drawn to the heather flower, and color, scents, etc. I'm sure an Amber might like the amber stone, color, etc.
4. Both have 'ditzy' or 'bimbo' associations, for whatever reason, but the names are both so popular that all of us probably know at least one Heather AND Amber that don't fit that mold at all. I am definitely one Heather that is not a ditzy bimbo by any means. :b And actually people have told me I don't "look like a Heather", but I've met very few Heathers, or Ambers for that matter, that were terribly flighty, dumb, busty, or strippers (I don't hang out with many strippers, though ;b).
Personally, I don't know that I could get over my dislike of the name to use it, even though it's a bit similar to my own name, and that I like. But I kind of have to like my name and get used to it, find its redeeming qualities. That and most Ambers I know aren't the nicest people, which is shallow of me to judge a name on that (but they're not bimbos, really!), but we all do, I guess.
If you think it's something you can learn to love, cool. But don't force it or you might resent him for it if you use it. Ya know?
(Forgive any spelling/grammar mistakes...I'm extremely tired and need to pull myself away.from.the.computer....)
1. Both were very popular for a time. (Heather in the 1970s and 80s, Amber in the 1980s and 1990s)
2. Both are two syllables and end in -er, and there aren't a huge amount of -er names for girls (Jennifer comes to mind, which was always grossly popular...what's the attraction to -er names for girls? lol).
3. Both are word names. Heather is a flower, Amber is a gem (somewhat). I find myself drawn to the heather flower, and color, scents, etc. I'm sure an Amber might like the amber stone, color, etc.
4. Both have 'ditzy' or 'bimbo' associations, for whatever reason, but the names are both so popular that all of us probably know at least one Heather AND Amber that don't fit that mold at all. I am definitely one Heather that is not a ditzy bimbo by any means. :b And actually people have told me I don't "look like a Heather", but I've met very few Heathers, or Ambers for that matter, that were terribly flighty, dumb, busty, or strippers (I don't hang out with many strippers, though ;b).
Personally, I don't know that I could get over my dislike of the name to use it, even though it's a bit similar to my own name, and that I like. But I kind of have to like my name and get used to it, find its redeeming qualities. That and most Ambers I know aren't the nicest people, which is shallow of me to judge a name on that (but they're not bimbos, really!), but we all do, I guess.
If you think it's something you can learn to love, cool. But don't force it or you might resent him for it if you use it. Ya know?
(Forgive any spelling/grammar mistakes...I'm extremely tired and need to pull myself away.from.the.computer....)
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