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Ive been thinking. Alot of people like unique names today for their kids, whether that be a Adelaide Marguerite or a Phoenix Sunrise. They may be cute but think about it, would you really want to grow up in todays society with your name being Phoenix Sunrise. I thought about how much I adore my grannys name Betty Jean but would my daughter really want to be a Betty growing up or somethin more that fits in with everyone else.
This message was edited 7/15/2008, 6:32 PM
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I like unusual names but I think there is such a thing as being too unusual. I love Phoenix for a boy and I would consider it but I think Phoenix Sunrise is a bit much.
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Think about it this way.
No matter what you choose, your kid is more than likely going to hate his or her name at some point in his or her life.
Lots of people do, whether they're named Jane or Addisyn or Morningstar. And guess what? Their parents can't predict that their darling baby is going to hate being Frederick George at age fourteen, or Juno Lilith at seven.
So if there's a good chance that your kid will probably be unhappy about their name at some point, but if that name isn't something that can be construed as cruel ("Unwanted Jones, get your butt right back here!"), why should you let that stand in your way? Use what you love; more likely than not, Betty Jean will come to appreciate her name when she's older. I certainly did, and I thought my name was stupid for years.
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No matter what you choose, your kid is more than likely going to hate his or her name at some point in his or her life.
Lots of people do, whether they're named Jane or Addisyn or Morningstar. And guess what? Their parents can't predict that their darling baby is going to hate being Frederick George at age fourteen, or Juno Lilith at seven.
So if there's a good chance that your kid will probably be unhappy about their name at some point, but if that name isn't something that can be construed as cruel ("Unwanted Jones, get your butt right back here!"), why should you let that stand in your way? Use what you love; more likely than not, Betty Jean will come to appreciate her name when she's older. I certainly did, and I thought my name was stupid for years.
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This message was edited 7/15/2008, 7:30 PM
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Yes, this.
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Ditto
I still don't like my name 100%. But I understand why my parents chose it and their love for it. Because of that I've come to respect my name enough to use it. Like Array said you just never know. My sister hates her name with a passion and she's a Jessica. It's too "common" for her. I hate my name because it's too "uncommon." My poor parents! Both of us, however, have come to accept our names (I thankfully have a bit more of a story to mine, rather than my sister whose name had to be chosen in four hours because they were sure she was a boy!)
I still don't like my name 100%. But I understand why my parents chose it and their love for it. Because of that I've come to respect my name enough to use it. Like Array said you just never know. My sister hates her name with a passion and she's a Jessica. It's too "common" for her. I hate my name because it's too "uncommon." My poor parents! Both of us, however, have come to accept our names (I thankfully have a bit more of a story to mine, rather than my sister whose name had to be chosen in four hours because they were sure she was a boy!)
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I would quite honestly hate the name Phoenix Sunrise. Phoenix sounds cool but I don't like word names like Sunrise, heaven etc. And even worse I hate virtue names.
I would like a unique name. Unique as in not as popular as everyone elses name. Adelaide is a very nice name. Also, I like REAL names and names that have meaning. Not names made up or with wacked out spellings.
I didn't like growning up with my name, Allison. There were lots of Allisons and we'd all answer at once or I'd have to correct everyone b/c I was the only Allison with 2 L's.
I would like a unique name. Unique as in not as popular as everyone elses name. Adelaide is a very nice name. Also, I like REAL names and names that have meaning. Not names made up or with wacked out spellings.
I didn't like growning up with my name, Allison. There were lots of Allisons and we'd all answer at once or I'd have to correct everyone b/c I was the only Allison with 2 L's.
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Phoenix is growing in popularity for both genders-- a little Phoenix will not seem so strange in a few years. Nor will an Adelaide.
Betty Jean is very familiar, and I highly doubt a child with such a name will be frowned upon, or that people will whisper "Oh, her name is so strange!" to each other. Plus, Betty's got a similar sound to Maddy, which is epically popular.
I'd worry more about prn issues, or really horribly dated names. Caoimhe and Doris will have much more trouble than Betty.
Betty Jean is very familiar, and I highly doubt a child with such a name will be frowned upon, or that people will whisper "Oh, her name is so strange!" to each other. Plus, Betty's got a similar sound to Maddy, which is epically popular.
I'd worry more about prn issues, or really horribly dated names. Caoimhe and Doris will have much more trouble than Betty.
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I agree. Names like Maddy and Abby are trendy so a Betty would probably fit right in.
This message was edited 7/15/2008, 6:50 PM
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First of all, unique is not really applicable to Adelaide Marguerite or Phoenix Sunrise because I am sure those names have been used before.
This is the fear that gets people pigeonholed into using the same basic set of names. It is more the case with boys than with girls from what I have seen because, for some reason, parents are very concerned about the fraternal acceptance of their boys in society's narrow view of what is "masculine".
I think every child is different. I didn't meet one other Caroline until I was in high school and I loved having a name not shared with other classmates. If you named a daughter Betty Jean she could love it or hate it. If you name a daughter Madison she may resent being one of seven in her class, you can't really determine a child's opinion of his/her name.
This is the fear that gets people pigeonholed into using the same basic set of names. It is more the case with boys than with girls from what I have seen because, for some reason, parents are very concerned about the fraternal acceptance of their boys in society's narrow view of what is "masculine".
I think every child is different. I didn't meet one other Caroline until I was in high school and I loved having a name not shared with other classmates. If you named a daughter Betty Jean she could love it or hate it. If you name a daughter Madison she may resent being one of seven in her class, you can't really determine a child's opinion of his/her name.
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I agree with the whole Betty and Madison and what I meant by unique was that they arent combos you hear everyday like Emma Grace or something.
This message was edited 7/15/2008, 6:48 PM
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I of course think about how it would be to have a certain name before I'd consider using it. For example, I love the name Llewelyn, but would hesitate to use it as a first name because the kid would constantly have to be telling people how to pronounce and spell it. Names like that, if I really did want to use them, would go in the middle name slot. I think pronunciation issues are a bigger deal than if a name sounds dated, like Betty.
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