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It is such a dilemma! See, I usually dislike people naming kids a nn (for eg, I adore Norah but any Norah of mine would be Eleanor "Norah" and ditto with Jeremiah "Jem" or Elisabeth "Bess" etc even if I would only ever call them by that nn) except everything other than Teresa (and the variants) seems like a stretch or that I am trying too hard and I really cannot stand Theresa! And unlike other nns, I can see Tessa on its own. I could take a Tessa seriously. President Tessa Jackson (Jackson isn't my ln by the way, just an eg) sounds perfectly fine to me. But I am worried about her being judged by others who don't see it the same way.
I guess the other thing is that my other kids are likely to have quite formal full names as fns and will all have nns (such as Vivienne "Vivi", Eleanor "Norah", Bridget "Biddy" etc) and maybe Tessa (who would go by Tess and Tessie a bit I assume) won't fit into that...
But I really really like it! Grrrrrr! :p
I guess its a good thing this is all hypothetical and kids are a long way (I hope!) off for me!
Thanks for your opinion!
I guess the other thing is that my other kids are likely to have quite formal full names as fns and will all have nns (such as Vivienne "Vivi", Eleanor "Norah", Bridget "Biddy" etc) and maybe Tessa (who would go by Tess and Tessie a bit I assume) won't fit into that...
But I really really like it! Grrrrrr! :p
I guess its a good thing this is all hypothetical and kids are a long way (I hope!) off for me!
Thanks for your opinion!
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"I guess the other thing is that my other kids are likely to have quite formal full names as fns and will all have nns..."
That would be a problem for me, and possibly for the child who stands out.
I like sibling names to be equal, not similair really, but equal in style, weight...
A woman I know was told by a friend when she expected her second child that sibling names should be "the same". She had an Emma, and named the second girl Elsa, because of what her friend had said. I think that's terrible, they're too much alike, and Emma would not be hard to pair with an equal girl name.
(It also shows how a lot of people don't really think too much about names. She didn't have an input herself, or a list of names she liked, just "my friend said..." Odd.)
So I don't mean equal like "the same". I guess what I mean is that if I met sisters Beatrice and Rory I would really question the parents. They're not equal.
So, as much as I love Tessa, I think her sisters should have less formal names too. Nora is a full name to me, and nice with Tessa. Ella (for example) isn't a full name to me, but Ella and Tessa could go together as that type of names. Or her sisters could just have shorter
less traditional names.
Tessa and Katherine - no
Tessa and Kate - yes
Tessa and Stella? Yes
Tessa and Lily - yes
I think you get my point, I'm rambling.
It is a dilemma though, I'm glad that my kids are also just hypothetical for now.
I could discuss this all night, because I really dislike NNs as given names. But Tessa... is so beautiful. It is amazing what one letter can do. The Tessan version I mentioned ( kind of like Tess-Anne) is garbage to me. Drop the N and wow! There's Tessa.
Is there a risk of Tessa becoming really trendy?
That would be a problem for me, and possibly for the child who stands out.
I like sibling names to be equal, not similair really, but equal in style, weight...
A woman I know was told by a friend when she expected her second child that sibling names should be "the same". She had an Emma, and named the second girl Elsa, because of what her friend had said. I think that's terrible, they're too much alike, and Emma would not be hard to pair with an equal girl name.
(It also shows how a lot of people don't really think too much about names. She didn't have an input herself, or a list of names she liked, just "my friend said..." Odd.)
So I don't mean equal like "the same". I guess what I mean is that if I met sisters Beatrice and Rory I would really question the parents. They're not equal.
So, as much as I love Tessa, I think her sisters should have less formal names too. Nora is a full name to me, and nice with Tessa. Ella (for example) isn't a full name to me, but Ella and Tessa could go together as that type of names. Or her sisters could just have shorter
less traditional names.
Tessa and Katherine - no
Tessa and Kate - yes
Tessa and Stella? Yes
Tessa and Lily - yes
I think you get my point, I'm rambling.
It is a dilemma though, I'm glad that my kids are also just hypothetical for now.
I could discuss this all night, because I really dislike NNs as given names. But Tessa... is so beautiful. It is amazing what one letter can do. The Tessan version I mentioned ( kind of like Tess-Anne) is garbage to me. Drop the N and wow! There's Tessa.
Is there a risk of Tessa becoming really trendy?
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I don't think so...there isn't a significant popular culture reference that I know of that would cause a jump in popularity and its popularity has sat at around the same point (around 250) for about 20 yrs in the US and it doesn't rank in the top 100 anywhere else. It also doesn't have a super trendy sound to it (I don't think) because it isn't overly girly or frilly which seem to be the trends at the moment.
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