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Help[Opinions] What would you do?
What would you do if you have loved a name for many years and was going to use it on your child if you ever had one. And you knew someone with the name who meant the world to you and you would be naming the child after the friend. But then someone came into your life for the shortest amount of time with the same name who you didn't know that well but you still disliked them. Would you still use the name you have loved for years?
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Yes, don't let the short-term bad association ruin the good.
Unless the name was extremely uncommon, I don't think it would matter to me, I'd use the name as planned.
Heck, even if it WAS a super unique name and I somehow had the bad luck to meet an unpleasant person who shared it, I think I'd still use it. Because chances are good that people who know me aren't going to seriously wonder if I named my kid after an annoying person I barely know.
Heck, even if it WAS a super unique name and I somehow had the bad luck to meet an unpleasant person who shared it, I think I'd still use it. Because chances are good that people who know me aren't going to seriously wonder if I named my kid after an annoying person I barely know.
I'm not sure if this hypothetical or real. Yes I would use the name assuming my partner agreed because they can sometimes veto. I think I would more so hesitate using a name if a close family member named their child that name but even then it may depend on the situation. My sister married a man with my husbands same last name. My dad passed away. My sisters father in law passed away. They found out they were having twin boys and asked what we thought they should name them. I said I would name them after your dads. That is exactly what they did. Thing is my father in law also has that same name so in the crazy world where my husband and I would possibly have twin boys we may consider using the same names as well.
Yes, I would, providing that the disliked person really was just a fleeting experience and the name itself was common enough that that one bad apple wouldn't be the only other time I ran across that name.
I would think my feelings for the person I've known longer would eclipse my feelings for someone I've only known briefly. Unless they did something absolutely horrible that I can't forgive, I don't see an issue.
Situation 1: The best comparison I have is the name Rosalie. If I had a kid and was still friends with her, I would use it as a middle name, now that I know someone with that name. I like that friend a lot, but I wouldn’t name a kid after her, because I would want the kid to have their own identity.
Situation 2: The best comparison I have is the name Caleb. It was never one I would pick, but I always liked to use it on minor book characters. Then I met a Caleb who I would say was just a terrible person. I like hearing the name, but I could never use it, because I would only ever think of the Caleb I knew.
I would say it depends.
Situation 2: The best comparison I have is the name Caleb. It was never one I would pick, but I always liked to use it on minor book characters. Then I met a Caleb who I would say was just a terrible person. I like hearing the name, but I could never use it, because I would only ever think of the Caleb I knew.
I would say it depends.
Yes, I would still use the name and not allow that person to ruin it for me.