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Help[Opinions] Did I give my child a good name?
Did I give my daughter a good name? I named her Ayanami Blase. It's her first and middle name. She is a teenager and doesn't like it. We call her Aya and Ay but she still complains. Should she change it? I love her name. What does everyone think?
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Wow. Never thought my mother would post about me on this site. P.S. I'm actually trans/non-binary and go by Blaise. Aya is the thing I go by IRL to those I'm not out to yet.
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Please use one posting name and don’t answer your own posts.
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What? I didn't post the original post at all. Me and my mom have the same IP address because we live together. Do you run some weird bot on your account that just replies this to people who have multiple accounts on the same IP or some crud like that?
And 4 likes? Seriously, you guys? Do you think I posted the original thread for brownie points or something? Because I didn't. I live with my mom and we just so happen to share the same internet connection. And no, I am NOT going to be sharing an account with my mother. She has a nasty habit of deleting important things and hijacking my stuff.
And 4 likes? Seriously, you guys? Do you think I posted the original thread for brownie points or something? Because I didn't. I live with my mom and we just so happen to share the same internet connection. And no, I am NOT going to be sharing an account with my mother. She has a nasty habit of deleting important things and hijacking my stuff.
This message was edited 5/7/2022, 4:11 PM
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There is no good or bad name. If you loved the name when she was born than that's all that mattered at the time. I also agree with what Perrine wrote. I think as a teen you often don't want to stand out in the crowd so that might be why she's going through a "I don't like my name" phase. If she want to use a nickname, Ana/Blase, than I'd respect her choice, but I think it's likely she'll grow to love her first name when she's a bit older.
This message was edited 4/26/2022, 11:51 AM
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I think Aya is a nice name. If she thinks her name is so bad she can always change. I think this is up to her to decide. Maybe she’ll change her mind.
ETA: I did not know about the association from a TV show or something. Possibly a troll.
ETA: I did not know about the association from a TV show or something. Possibly a troll.
This message was edited 4/26/2022, 12:09 PM
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That's what I thought at first so I investigated, but there's a Facebook page for her and photos, so it looks legit.
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Oh wow. Well in that case I stand by what I said before, and I’ll echo the other comments just to say it might just be a phase. She should be able to go by a nickname or something if she wants to. As far as legally, she can wait until she’s older for that final step. Like I said before, Aya is a nice name to appreciate. There are much worse names out there. (Not to go there or anything...)
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let her change it to Naomi or something
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It is extremely common for teenagers, especially girls, to go through a phase where they hate their names and tell their parents they wish they had named them something else. She may well change her mind about this in a few years. Personally I would tell her she can be called anything she want --it's perfectly legal to go by any name one wants to as long as there is no intention to defraud--, and if she wants to legally change her name after she turns 18 and can afford the small cost, she can do it. But that doesn't obligate you to help her do it.
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No, I wouldn't let her change it. Not legally at least.
I disagree with what most people write here. Her name is fine, it has lots of options.
She could go by Aya which is a name in many cultures and perfectly fine. Or by Nami which is cute. Or by Blase. She has lots of choices.
Most teenagers dislike their names. It's just a phase. If she wants to be called something else for now call her that, but don't change it legally. She will most likely love it later on.
I disagree with what most people write here. Her name is fine, it has lots of options.
She could go by Aya which is a name in many cultures and perfectly fine. Or by Nami which is cute. Or by Blase. She has lots of choices.
Most teenagers dislike their names. It's just a phase. If she wants to be called something else for now call her that, but don't change it legally. She will most likely love it later on.
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You say she is a teenager... So you named her after either an anime character, or a warship? I can understand why she hates it. Yeah, she should change her name, why not? At the very least let her play around with nicknames she likes, there's no harm in that.
This message was edited 4/26/2022, 5:44 PM
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I wouldn't be thrilled being named after that show, either. And especially if neither of my parents were Japanese, and therefore couldn't even try to convince me that literally anything else was the reason for it.
Regardless, if a child wants to be called something else, the general rule would be to allow them, even if they don't have a "good" reason to dislike their name.
Regardless, if a child wants to be called something else, the general rule would be to allow them, even if they don't have a "good" reason to dislike their name.
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Name a pop culture charcater this but not a child.
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And this is why we don’t use children as billboards for our fandoms.
In regards to changing it: I think the person who has to wear the name as their identity and live with it in their day to day lives should get the final vote.
In regards to changing it: I think the person who has to wear the name as their identity and live with it in their day to day lives should get the final vote.
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I agree.
This message was edited 5/2/2022, 6:49 PM
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I don't know the whole story but based on the name it kind of sounds like you forced your fandom obsession on your kid... If that's the case she should be allowed to change it.
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Maybe you could call her Blase, if she prefers this name. But if she doesn't even like her middle name, you should ask her how she wants to be called. About the name change, it is generally something that has to be done with very serious reasons, I think. Maybe she's just having her teenage rebellion time and she will come back to like her name in maturity.
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If she really doesn’t like it, let her choose something else.
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This message was edited 4/25/2022, 10:36 PM
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Use one posting name and don’t answer to yourself please.
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