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Help[Opinions] Re: As Do I With You...
in reply to a message by Francesca
Every time I read your posts, I hear Diane Chambers' voice in my head.
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I just get the word "ethnocentric"... (in reference to attitude)... but that's ok... she can stick with names of her own heritage if she wishes... and we can choose from whatever languages we see as right for our children.
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I merely see complete, utter, extremely ethnic opposites of no connection slightly tacky in appearance. Boleslava Nelson, Vladimir Taylor, Stylianos Cavey, and Mufaddal Lopez are not attractive, in my opinion.
It is another story if you immigrated (permanently live) in another country. I know families from China, the Philippines, Mexico, Russia, Italy, and Germany who all have adopted new callings and/or began to give their children names that reflected the United States. My father's name is English, my Grandfather's name is English, and so on-- but for that particular instance, a large reason was because of discrimination and harsh stereotypes many years ago.
This message was edited 2/23/2012, 9:42 PM
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The thing is that the word "tacky" carries a definite sense of judgement and personal superiority.
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I felt that the word displayed my view as softly, truthfully, and acceptably as possible. In all honesty, no matter what I chose I was destined to be hounded over it due to the fact that it is a negative word. People can dig too deeply into what was allegedly implied, or people can take it at face value (my intention.)
I apologize for any misunderstandings. A difference in opinion does not merit being wrongly labeled, however.
This message was edited 2/24/2012, 9:52 AM
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Ok then... I'm sorry if you found the term offensive and the term may not apply to other aspects of your life and attitude... Another post you made some time back condemning people with no Italian heritage using the name Francesca did come across as extremely ethnocentric though... It's not just about superiority though... it's about having to have things done the way one's own culture does things and a possessiveness of that language and culture for only that group... and you need to consider that some people who happen to LOVE names not of their own ethnic heritage or have those names might find your labelling such combos as "tacky" simply on the basis of not being part of their own origins or not "matching" them somehow to be offensive... esp. in cultures like Canada and the States where mixing cultures in some ways is part of the culture. You can walk down the street in some neighbourhoods and find a colourful mix of children and languages and some of them may intermarry. That in itself will naturally result in surnames and given names that don't necessarily match... as well as children who see other languages and cultures as part of a bigger picture. I remember having 3 girls in the same Sun. school class who'd gone all through school together and were fairly good friends and all had different ethnic backgrounds... Their children could marry each other and have the result be children with these "mis-matched" names. 1 had a Fr. fn (that's also common in En.) w/ a surname that I'm not sure exact origins of (but it wasn't Fr.) and Friesian (sp?) ancestors. Another was Cdn. born Chinese. Another was white and Filipino mixed. It finally hit 1 of them near the end of gr. 7 that they were all different that way. It didn't bother her and it was just an observation, but the point was that that mixture of cultures was just normal and natural to them... when the mix is normal and natural, the potential to adopt bits of other languages and cultures into one's own life -regardless of ethnic origins.
This message was edited 2/24/2012, 12:33 AM
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BRAVO!
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